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Disablist language and deletions

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BOFtastic · 17/03/2014 01:43

Sort of on the back of another thread, I've noticed recent deletions of the word 'moron' as disablist.

I''ve done some googling. It was used among a couple of other older terms, idiot and imbecile, by Henry H. Goddard, a psychologist at the turn of the 19th century to grade people of "low intelligence", and it was taken up to justify eugenics. So distasteful, yes.

Is it just that Goddard actually coined 'moron', and the other terms were pre-existing? Goddard himself disavowed it shortly afterwards, and it hasn't been in use medically for a very long time. I very much doubt that people who use the word are directly referring to learning disability- the word in that sense is long-obsolete. Much like the word 'cretin', which has a similar history.

Language changes, we all know that.

The issue gets more clear-cut, I think, when similarly-originated terms are used as insults separate to their initial meaning. It is NOT ok- regardless of the speaker's meaning and motivation- to, for example, use 'gay' to mean 'pathetic', because it is still primarily used to refer to people's sexual orientation, and making the word an insult is demeaning to them. Also words like 'retard', because alongside its general use, it is still used to abuse and insult people with learning disabilities.

That, in my opinion, should be the rule of thumb: if the initial meaning is long obsolete, fine; if it still gets used in a discriminatory sense about actually-existing groups of marginalised and oppressed people, not fine.

So after thinking about it, I don't think I agree that the word 'moron' should be deleted as disablist language.

So what do people think?

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PlentyOfPubeGardens · 21/03/2014 08:58

But the thread is about disablist language!

'Social cripple' and 'socially disabled' are disablist language. 'Arsehole' and 'wanker' are not.

This is not a diversion and it's not about you.

JustineMumsnet · 21/03/2014 10:57

Hi all, so our current position is that we don't allow hate speech or anything that breaks the law. We also will delete anything reported that we see as being unpleasant about vulnerable groups/minorities.

BOF's suggestion for a rule of thumb for deletion on language makes sense to us and is pretty close to where we are at present. She suggested we delete words if:

a) they are terms currently, or very recently, used in an ordinary descriptive sense about people with disabilities, because they are converting that description into something pejorative; and

b) they are terms which get used in an unpleasant way by rude or bigoted people to directly demean and belittle people with disabilities. While we still have nasty people who bang on the school bus yelling 'mong', 'spaz' 'or 'retard' (for example), then it doesn't matter if the poster on mumsnet isn't using it to refer to disability. Regardless of their intent, they are still cruel words which serve to oppress and insult the disabled.

The grey area is what we mean by "recently". We would pretty much always delete 'spaz' or 'retard' I'd imagine - and I doubt many would object to that, but there's very little consensus, even on this thread, about 'moron', 'moronic', 'cretinous' etc

It would be great if we could reach a consensus but without it we would rather not have cast iron rules on actual words themselves but instead use the above guidelines and revert to the big principles on a case-by-case basis when we are in a grey area; i.e. is this in any way interesting or making anyone's life easier? Does it add to the debate? Is it in the spirit of the site? Is it just mean? Does it feel disablist?

Do continue to add thoughts as and when you have them.

bialystockandbloom · 21/03/2014 12:39

They're intended as insults

limited that is *precisely the point!

This is not about whether or not people are allowed to insult each other. It is about the choice of words used as an insult.

Swear words like wanker/arsehole etc are abusive and insulting - which is why they're swear words.

But throw in a reference to a disability as an insult and you are therefore suggesting that it is, ergo, the disability that is the insulting part.

That is what this thread is about!

bialystockandbloom · 21/03/2014 12:40

Would you use the word "gay" to belittle someone's behaviour? eg someone does something, say, clumsy, and you say "god that's so gay"

mrscog · 21/03/2014 12:57

I think Bof's rules are sensible, I had no idea of the origins of 'moron' and I think that it is very much on the cusp of acceptability and will only become more acceptable - eventually it will be like idiot.

In fact I think idiot is less offensive than stupid. Stupid seems to demean people with lower intelligence which is something that people have no decision over whether they have or not. I see idiot meaning a certain type of behaviour based on a decision to behave in that way.

zzzzz · 21/03/2014 14:11

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MiscellaneousAssortment · 21/03/2014 17:42

Exactly this bialystockandbloom

^^They're intended as insults

limited that is *precisely the point!

This is not about whether or not people are allowed to insult each other. It is about the choice of words used as an insult.

Swear words like wanker/arsehole etc are abusive and insulting - which is why they're swear words.

But throw in a reference to a disability as an insult and you are therefore suggesting that it is, ergo, the disability that is the insulting part.^^

MiscellaneousAssortment · 21/03/2014 17:43

Btw I've been avoiding the little diversion going on on this thread, but I will reference it just once (sorry!)...

Calling someone a cripple is insulting i get that, but also really hurtful to me. I am 'a cripple', and your decision to use what I am through no fault of my own as a harsh insult to someone else... Well it hurts. It's like you're saying 'god its so foul to be you, I can't think of a better insult than to say someone is like you too'

I'm sorry if that's annoying or unhip or ultra politically correct to you... But to me it's not a cognitive debate, it's wounding and shows me exactly what society thinks of me.

TheLightPassenger · 21/03/2014 18:12

Good posts misc, completely agree. Sorry you have been upset.

bluepen · 21/03/2014 19:34

While you are there.

What is the current status on the word "loon"?

limitedperiodonly · 21/03/2014 19:44

Would you use the word "gay" to belittle someone's behaviour? eg someone does something, say, clumsy, and you say "god that's so gay"

I wasn't going to return to this thread because I didn't think I had anything constructive to add and I didn't think many of the other posters mindlessly attacking me and patting each other on the back did either.

But, bialystockandbloom, I'm going to reply to you. You can take that how you want and I don't require a response, and certainly not a complimentary one.

You asked me a question

So, the answer to whether I'd the use the word 'gay' in a pejorative sense is no.

Mainly because it doesn't register with me. I'm late 40s so 'gay' as an insult goes over my head. I honestly don't know how I feel about it, but I wouldn't use it in that context.

I understand gay friends using the words 'queer', 'homo', 'dyke', 'poof' and 'she' - as a gay man referring to another gay man - but I wouldn't use them myself.

Just as a woman, I find it acceptable to use the words 'slut', 'tart', 'trollop', 'whore' but wouldn't automatically like a man using them - or for that matter, a woman. It all depends on the context.

There are some words regarding mental and physical health that I regard it as too current. Among them are 'mong', 'spaz', 'retard' and 'flid'. 'Joey' is another one. That's a bit after my time, but I can see the offence.

Can I say that I didn't want to spell out those words and tried not to in case anybody wants to turn that against me. I've felt the need to because people keep asking.

As I've explained, I don't think cripple is amongst that list.

You've disagreed, as have others. That's fine. It's a debate to try to find acceptable terms to use on Mumsnet.

If the terms I use are unacceptable to the majority then I won't use them here.

It's not a contest to try to beat me over the head about it and pat each other on the back.

As I've said, to do that is a diversion and I don't want to do that though I realise that some posters do, even while saying 'it's not about you' Confused.

God, this post is really long.

As I keep saying, the OP's original premise about the amnesty of archaic medical terms was a good one and I agree with her, even if she doesn't agree with me.

I don't understand why some of you are trying to divert the argument with an examination of my views.

Not because I'm scared of an argument. But because I think it detracts from the OP's point - which is extremely valuable.

So, look, I don't really want to argue about me any more. So I'm probably not going to. But I might. It depends on what's said.

Essentially though, I think we should get back to what the OP said. And yes, I agree with her.

Fuck me. That was long.

zzzzz · 21/03/2014 20:16

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limitedperiodonly · 21/03/2014 20:35

zzzzz I don't think that describing someone as crippled is necessarily an insult. I don't think that being raped is an insult either or should be a banned word.

Therefore I don't object to terms such as 'fraped' or 'the rape of the land'. There's another one to bash me with.

But as I keep saying, the OP's debate is not about me and what I think.

We can talk about what I think until the cows come home. You won't change my views because I am happy with them and I don't care about what you think.

However, the OP's debate is valuable and you are sidetracking it by arguing with me.

Maybe I should withdraw because you don't seem able to.

She has argued that terms such as imbecile, moron, idiot and cretin (I think) should be given an amnesty because they are archaic medical terms for mental illness and have passed into general usage.

I agree with her. What do you think about those words, and those only? And your reply shouldn't be addressed to me. It should be addressed to the OP.

I promise you, I won't use the other words that you hate so much on here. I thought I'd said that.

So there's nothing to argue with me about, is there? Unless you just want to argue with me for the sake of arguing.

NurseyWursey · 21/03/2014 20:38

I think cripple is a horrible and outdated word. I wouldn't dream of using that.

zzzzz · 21/03/2014 21:31

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bialystockandbloom · 21/03/2014 21:52

limited I feel you're missing the fundamental point of this, and focussing on the words themselves, rather than how and why they are used.

It is not a word itself which is offensive, it is the reason it is used.

So, to use my previous example, it is not offensive to say that someone is gay when they are gay and it is relevant to the conversation. But it is offensive to use the word as an insult to someone (whether that person is or isn't gay).

Equally, it isn't an insult to say that someone is eg disabled when they are disabled. It is if you use the word "disabled" as a form of insult about something which is wholly irrelevant that it becomes offensive.

The word "retard" is a perfect example of this - once upon a time it was used as a "medical" definition (to describe low IQ I assume). So at the time it wouldn't have been offensive for a medical textbook to use the term as a definition. But over time, as the term was dropped from medical/diagnostic use, it became a form of insult. Now it is used purely to insult people, either NT people for doing something laughable, or directly against people with LDs to openly mock them.

"Cripple" seems to fall into this category.

I don't want to make this into a sub-thread between us either! But it is such a crucial point to this whole debate - this thread is about exactly this.

terms such as imbecile, moron, idiot and cretin (I think) should be given an amnesty because they are archaic medical terms for mental illness and have passed into general usage.

I think I agree with you on this, about idiot and moron, because I don't think they're used in the way that other insults are, and I really do think most people under the age of about 70 wouldn't associate those words with anyone with actual LDs. But I'm not nearly so sure on this as I was when I first read the OP.

limitedperiodonly · 21/03/2014 22:30

I'm not missing the point bialystock. I'm disagreeing with you. Which is allowed, isn't it?

I think crippled is a legitimate term to use in some circumstances. You, and everyone else on here, disagrees.

Fair enough. I will not use it here. I do not wish to be deleted. Neither do I wish to alienate people unnecessarily. I think my views on most subjects here are reasonably sound. But sometimes it happens...

I will continue to use the term outside MN.

If you met me, you could argue with me or ignore me. But it would be unlikely that you would change my mind and therefore I believe there is no point arguing. Ignore me. You could even console yourself in the belief that I am an arsehole or a wanker.

That was a a really intelligent level of debate btw and I've made a note of those posters just so I can make a special point of ignoring them in future.

As I keep saying, the point of this debate is to decide which other terms can be used - and the OP didn't mention cripple - I did.

So I continue to say that by banging on about the use of that word and arguing with me, people have hijacked an important debate.

That's not my fault. It's their self indulgence.

I should say that I'd bow out for the good of the debate. But maybe they should have the grace to say: 'Do you know what? Let's just ignore her, stop asking her questions and get back on track.'

Because I've lost count of the times I've suggested that.

And now that goes for you.

NurseyWursey · 21/03/2014 22:34

I accept that you think it's an okay term to use, but I'm just wondering at what sort of circles you are in that find the term crippled okay Confused it's possibly the sort of term my great nan would use, she's 83. She would use it out of ignorance though.

To me using the word crippled is akin to using the word queer.

limitedperiodonly · 21/03/2014 22:38

I am going to try to sit on my hands now because the OP's point is a good one and replying to you is sidetracking her issue.

So if I promise to leave it alone, do you promise to debate her point?

Sorry, OP. Whatever you think of me, I'm going to try to get it back on your track.

MiscellaneousAssortment · 21/03/2014 22:40

^It's not a contest to try to beat me over the head about it and pat each other on the back^

Interesting interpretation of other peoples posts. I'm glad you think my own personal life experience and view as a disabled person, is not in fact a valid point of view and that I was 'patting someone's back' in sharing something so close to my heart. Nice. Constructive. Thoughtful.

You are utterly failing to see the point that other posters are so eloquently making. Im sorry that you appear to be unable to see past your fixed point of view, which youve already made plain. I do understand the point you were making, and happen to disagree and want to move past it. Please don't belittle me or others. It's unpleasant. Needless. And massively derailing... Which is what you say you don't want to do.

I am finding your posts confusing, disengenuous at best, as they seem to be all about bringing it back to yourself, when really, it's not about you. I'm not quite sure why you feel the need to repeatedly tell us all off for daring to react to posts in this thread and that we are somehow derailing the thread by responding to you. It certainly has the effect of keeping the thread centred on one person.

My opinions aren't about you.
Nor is this thread.
Nor I suspect are most other peoples posts.
We have moved on, and have used your example of 'cripple' and accompanying mindset to debate something interesting, and I feel, useful.

As someone else has already said, it is not the words themselves but the way they are used.

Or have I got this wrong? Is this in fact a private thread? Perhaps I am not allowed to post here? Please do tell me.

bluepen · 21/03/2014 22:44

Do people at your work use it?

MiscellaneousAssortment · 21/03/2014 22:46

To everyone else, I am so sorry for not being able to keep a dignified silence and rise above it.

I am absolutely open to having a constructive debate and understand that people won't agree and that it's not my role to change their minds if they don't want to hear.

However I'm not ok with someone belittling my views and therefore (in this case) my identity and life experience. That, I do feel needs more than turning the other cheek.

I hope I haven't in some way derailed the thread Flowers

limitedperiodonly · 21/03/2014 22:53

NurseyWursey You are the last person I'm going to reply to and I'm going to say you and everyone else should address the OP and not me and you should debate her original point.

Not because I'm scared of an argument but because the OP's point is important.

It has been hijacked - and latterly not by me but by you and other people - and you should all get back on track as I've repeatedly said.

I'm going to hide this thread now because I don't think you people understand or want to.

NurseyWursey · 21/03/2014 22:55

Of course we understand the point limited I think you're mistaken now. I already completely understand and support what the OP has said, and have nothing to add on the issue. It doesn't mean I can't challenge views that are said in the thread - of which yours I feel are incredibly wrong.

But yes, lets not derail any further :)

zzzzz · 21/03/2014 22:58

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