I think ultimately it's not us it's Them 
I think up in HQ Mumsnet are at at odds.
They want to keep the media going with their wimmin are clever too, look at our campaigns, look at what mnetters do for each other spiel.
But
That is at odds with what they want to present to advertisers, who want fluffy. So then comes in the sanitisation, and telling off on threads of being girls.
I just think the natural bland of no bullshit, strong opinions and viper fluffiness is now being picked apart, they are trying to turn it into a marketing formula, when it was something very organic.
This is why now I think you get two lots of disgruntled newbies. Which trot out the following phrases with, I think, concerning regularity.
I just came here as I was told this was a nice place for support and you are all horrible.
And
I came here because you are all supposed to be clever, I thought this was a place for robust debate and opinions why are you all running off to the mods reporting me.
Now. Justine's been very quick to say of late that they have never presented Mnet as a safe place yada, yada, yada. And it's not its on the Internet and a forum.
But if you need to talk wouldn't do it at the forum that has very public campaigns against the abuse of women?
This is navel gazing, I'm not obsessing over it, it's just casual observation.
And moderation doesn't have to be consistent, it rarely is. And if you get deleted, and people go "eh why?" A post can be reinstated. But moderation has to be consistent in the sense that, it can just be from 8am to 9:30pm, if the site is used for 24 hours.