what the actual is that facebook like button doing there?

[CarolCervix]

has it always been there? or has it moved? and does that mean if someone 'likes' that thread it will be posted to their fb page?

People are missing a massive point here though.

Mn hq can remove a like button from certain threads/topics.

But anyone can copy/paste a link to a thread and put it on facebook/twitter.

People need to think very carefully before posting stuff that is so sensitive they wouldn't want others to read it. Not having a button doesn't stop sensitive topics being distributed over the internet.

BTW I love the smilies that it's on the TTC board or lone parents! Oh my god some people have sex in order to conceive! Or aren't married!

I think the smilies about TTC/lone parents are because people might post details about their sex lives/wanker exes, which may either cause embarrassment or legal issues for them if they were outed. I think think it's all that amusing.

but it's still a public forum.

If people are posting stuff that may cause legal issues for them if they're outed they need to be thinking carefully about posting them on a public forum.

Facebook isn't the issue here - peoples' naivety about their perceived anonimity is.

It's not remotely amusing - and given the heartache that occurs a lot on the TTC boards, I find the assumption that it's about "people having sex in order to conceive" quite puerile in its naivety.
Lone parents often have security issues to deal with as well - it's hardly about just being "not married"

HELEN, IT IS ON CHILD/ADOLESCENT MENTAL HEALTH .

I've checked, both yesterday and just now, and it's there on any thread I have looked at.

She's right Helen - it is there.

Thankyou thumb, I think I'm going a bit nuts and seeing things.

calmdown you have no f**king clue do you? I hope you never ever have the misfortune to have fertility issues, I wouldn't wish it on anyone, but if you had you would realise that conception isn't just simply having sex and nine months later having a perfect healthy baby pop out. Why don't you go and read some threads over there and come back when you've experienced the reality of baby making for some people

I had 3 years on the TTC boards....other than happily discussing my cervical mucus with strangers, and how I held my legs up for an hour... I didn't post anything especially private that would give me away. People need to learn this.

I woldn't put a "like" button on the bereavement or miscarriage thread (but then there is a sub forum for them especially so mnhq can make that possible. But only because having a "like" button over them would seem disrespectful. Not because of identifying info. It can still be found.

@IAmFuckingPissedOff

HELEN, IT IS ON CHILD/ADOLESCENT MENTAL HEALTH .

It is?

wannaBe, you don't seem to have any other point to make, and I'm bored of seeing "you shouldn't post on the internet if you're worried about people seeing it", but I'll reiterate my answer to your point again:

None of us are stupid enough to think that we're completely anonymous here. However, many of us go to fairly great lengths to ensure that we are as anonymous as it is possible to be. I have posted things here before which could not be proven to be written by me, although there may have been a question of it.

This 'like' button encourages people to plaster MN threads all over their facebooks in a way that the far more subtle FB link in the top bar did not do previously. Yes, one could click that before. Or yes, one could easily c+p a link from here to FB (or anywhere else). But having a friendly, innocuous-looking 'like' button on each post, much like there is on many other websites, is just asking people to click it.

I wish MNHQ would stop being so disingenuous and admit that this is a money-making exercise and that they're going to continue with this, despite the very real concerns of some of their most prolific posters.

I've had fertility issues.

I've posted about them on here.

This is a public website.

If someone from rl identified me and the issues I was going through at the time I was ttc I would have no-one to blame for that but myself.

I could go on to any thread on mn now and copy it and paste it on to twitter/fb for all my friends/followers to read and retweet at their leisure. I don't need a button on mn to enable me to do that.

It may seem distasteful to have an actual "like" button on certain threads, but not having that button doesn't ensure privacy in any way shape or form. When are people going to realize that?

You're right.

That is a major mistake.

Am going to go and shout at the Tech team try to sort that out right now.

Actually I battled with PCOS and did have fertility issues for several years. amadine and because it is of sensitive nature... I DID NOT post private info.

I suggest you try fertility friends as it is a much better resource for women ttc than mumsnet is designed for women who are struggling so can be arranged in such a way that you aren't forced to look at pregnancy posts etc... and dosent have a like button.

HELEN MNHQ can I also highlight employment issues? If people post stuff and it is accidently "liked" it could cause no end of issues, if they are friends on FB with work colleagues.

I totally agree...I phone, fat fingers, scroll thread, click "like" accidently

Can you tell the powers that be our concern Helen?
opt out option? No Likey, No Like button

MistleTobyLeWolef clearly there are a lot of people on here who are that stupid if they are getting hysterical about their perceived loss of privacy. Nothing has changed. the kinds of people who would post to fb would have been doing so already without the existence of a button.

Sorry for pimping another website MNHQ- but it is actually better for women with serious fertility problems than mumsnet

Yeah that's a great solution, all the regulars should go and use a different website

OK, it's gorn from Child/Adolescent Mental Health. Huge apols for that.

I've got to go to a meeting now and then I'm going to run out and get a sarnie. So if there's no response from us for a while, it's not because we're ignoring you.

I think that's fair enough.

People would refer someone with dv issues to women's aid/refuge, people with mh issues to seek professional help etc, I don't see what the problem is with referring people with conception issues to a website specifically designed for the issue concerned.

yes, that's exactly what I said deck! Or you could reread the past few comments before commenting on it?

So you can get it off adoption and fostering pretty quickly can't you?

Decks, I read somewhere in the last couple of days that regular posters are in the minority, compared to lurkers and occasional posters, and that therefore regular posters shouldn't have any input into the site.

The site, apparently, doesn't need posters, only lurkers who click on ads .