can all my posts be deleted and my account?...

[violet79]

Ive tried posting nicely on this site 3 or 4 times now and ive just been called a liar or a troll and actual curses, ive been nothing but nice to ppl and never given anyone reason to think im lying or a beeeyatch...nothing i write is ever good enough...
there are a few ppl on here who are genuinly good and want to help out and i thank them ppl greatly.
i just posted my new thread edited so that noone could accuse my case of being "so outrageous" that i must be a lying cow but a quick scour of the net has confirmed my fears , that this is a bully-boy site.
I am appalled to say that the moderators here ...dont , i found personal attacks rife and even when i reported them i was told they would stay...and then on ONE occasion i say "OH COME ON"! when i was thrown abuse ...and I was warned...and THEN my whole thread was deleted when it had crucial advice i was relying on for tommorrow written on it my those few helpful members. all that effort and their effort i wanted to utilise just gone to pot because the moderators would rather delete my thread and the advice i recieved than remove bullies from thier site and thier threads...
so please remove me and all i have wrote...
i am better than this place.

Go to Talk at the top of the page then All Topics then Education then Special Educational Needs. You will find very helpful (and patient!) posters there who will be supportive of you and your family and help you with your dealings with the school.

Whilst deregistering and starting again might be a good idea, I think it should be pointed out that many posters from the SEN board offered excellent advice on the water bottle thread, and were ignored.

If the OP is willing to ignore 700+ posts from teachers, parents and SEN posters, I am not sure that she will accept advice from anyone under a different name. But it's worth a try, I guess.

the latest thread wasn't in 'AIBU', as has already been pointed out. Nor is it the only one that she has started showing some really worrying issues.

Feenie is right, a name change isn't going to solve Violet's problems for her.

Violet,

The one thing I've learned over many years is that not every forum suits every user. Some are warm and fluffy, some are blunt and in-your-face. There are also many types of forum users. Not every forum user suits every style of forum. If you stumble across a forum, you post and you feel uncomfortable with the responses then it is best to move on. If the style of posting is wrong for you then, on the whole, those posting are highly unlikely to change for you. There are many other places out there and many of those places also have wise and knowledgable people on them. Maybe walking away from here and trying somewhere else will provide you with the answers you are looking for. I once was a regular poster on another forum, but sometimes I came up against an attitude I didn't like so I don't visit there any more. The web is a 'virtual' world, no-one here knows who you are so you lose no face by walking.

Whatever you decide to do Violet, good luck I wish you well.

ok mrsdistinctly, I admit to not reading that entire waterbottle thread.

Thanks for the summary.

I remember reading the op and thinking "this will not end well".

Hello all

Please don't troll-hunt on the boards (as per our Talk Guidelines); you are pretty likely to get deleted if you do. And please also refrain from personal attacks on other posters.

Thanks,
MNHQ

ROFL

Is that a record for deleted posts on a single thread?

Well its certainly a record for me!!!! ROFL!

i suspect the water bottle thread might have earned me my first ever post deletion, but i hope not. i went and ate pizza instead and the thread evaporated at some point in the night.

but yy, lots of sn posters offering sage and experienced advice. (and getting extremely frustrated by it being smacked back in their faces)

a namechange really won't cut it.

vi, i hope you find somewhere you fit in. in terms of both forums and schools, but i suspect you may find it difficult. listening is a valuable skill.

I missed it all

Don't forget to pick up your teddy from the corner on your way out......

Me too,Pinot
I did read a post earlier in the thread by OP saying something like 'doesn't this site welcome new memebers?'
Well,I am fairly new,and I was very welcomed!
I don't take forums' too seriously,and by that I mean I just use them for a bit of banter and company
Of course,there are serious topics,that deem serious responses,and I think it's a chance you take.
I think,in my humble experience of forums,MN is a nice place to be.

VIOLET - yes I am raising my voice at you, to make sure you can hear me.

Friday evening seemed to turn into some sort of stamina test really didn't it?
But the important issue is how is your son? Have you spoken with the school? Have you spoken to the Governors?

If you do leave here will you go to a site that specialises in the areas your son struggles with to get support. And also for your anxiety and other health issues. There is support on this forum too.

Nag nag nag

Violet

I agree with what you've said above and with the above posters. On the previous thread you were called a bad mother NO ONE has the right to call you a bad mother (especially someone who has never met you). If someone said this to me I would feel bullied too. But, you got some good advice, ignored it and failed to take any responsibility for your son. You were expecting everyone to agree with you and feel sorry for you. I really hope that for your sake and your sons' sake you get all this sorted with school and are able to work with them to get the best outcome for your family.

Oh how I wish there was a "like" button!!

I think Op is probably not in the right 'frame of mind' for MN. If you post in Education and then get lots of advcie from SN posters (who normally are THE most supportive group on MN), and you can't see that you are being helped and supported, then I think there must be something seriously wrong.

No one said she was a bad mother, MammaBrussels - but many posters (including myself) pointed out it was neglectful not to give a child with serious dehydration issues a drink in the morning.

Feenie I think someone did call her a bad mother as I remember thinking "that's off" but I wouldn't stake my life on it.

are you sure it wasn't her interpretation? 'are you calling me a bad mother?' 'i'm not a bad mother - he can have a drink at school' etc etc ad infinitum. (except when school are negligent, not me.)

i didn't notice anyone saying it personally, but wouldn't rule it out. there were occasions when a bit of straight talking might have been helpful. but she wasn't listening to substance, just batting off anything that didn't tally with a decidedly fixed world view.

and i will eat my hat if she's a scientist.

i did call her bonzo though, i think. not my finest hour. but at that point she was being deliberately obtuse to wind people up, and it worked.

i'm not sure if bonzo qualifies as an 'actual curse' though... i call the children bonzo quite a lot. mm.