can all my posts be deleted and my account?...

[violet79]

Ive tried posting nicely on this site 3 or 4 times now and ive just been called a liar or a troll and actual curses, ive been nothing but nice to ppl and never given anyone reason to think im lying or a beeeyatch...nothing i write is ever good enough...
there are a few ppl on here who are genuinly good and want to help out and i thank them ppl greatly.
i just posted my new thread edited so that noone could accuse my case of being "so outrageous" that i must be a lying cow but a quick scour of the net has confirmed my fears , that this is a bully-boy site.
I am appalled to say that the moderators here ...dont , i found personal attacks rife and even when i reported them i was told they would stay...and then on ONE occasion i say "OH COME ON"! when i was thrown abuse ...and I was warned...and THEN my whole thread was deleted when it had crucial advice i was relying on for tommorrow written on it my those few helpful members. all that effort and their effort i wanted to utilise just gone to pot because the moderators would rather delete my thread and the advice i recieved than remove bullies from thier site and thier threads...
so please remove me and all i have wrote...
i am better than this place.

Violet, I can't believe I am posting on one of your threads again but here goes.

You have started 2 threads claiming that you are being victimised by your son's school. That they are neglectful, discriminatory, rude and out to get you.

You received excellent advice from many, all of which you ignored.

You have now posted this thread claiming that Mumsnetters are victimising you, being rude and out to get you.

Do you really not see that the issue could lie with you? There was much talk of your mental health issues on the last thread. I don't know anything about you but I do think you need to talk to someone, not spend your time getting wrapped up in forums with strangers which, by the sounds of it, make you anxious and stressed.

Good luck.

'AIBU is the bun fight of mumsnet, you would have been better off posting in Special Needs I would have thought, where the posters have a lot of experience of the issues facing parents of SN children and mainstream schooling.'

A lot of the people who posted on your threads were parents of children with SN. You didn't like many of their opinions and suggestions either.

'She reminds me of a line out of macbeth, " full of sound and fury, signifying nothing"'

I think you'll find that was Caliban in The Tempest.

My bad, and a faulty memory. It was Macbeth.
I'm off to find the quote about the island being full of noises....

Have you spoken to to the teacher yet?

i posted in primary education as my childs needs were basic not so much SN!
Eh? But wasn't your "waterbottle post" based around the fact that your DS had SN and therefore needed extra assistance or am I misremembering?

wow I misses this but by the 'sounds' of it, I don't think we are losing anything if violet leaves

moderators? bless her

Don't let the door ...

:o

I have had a look and you are mainly on AIBU -one to keep off unless you are thick skinned -at least half will tell you that YABU.
You have also been on the feminist one-I have learnt my lesson and don't go near-that is a blood bath if you won't conform!

Posters were nothing but nice to you at the start of your thread, but you avoided taking any responsibility for your own DS and your own failings.

After 600 posts of you claiming the teacher was terrible and you had done nothing wrong, plus all the drip feeding people started to get snappy, but no-one was rude.

on your thread in primary education (the waterbottle thread) you had hundreds and hundreds of posts offering you advice (which you had asked for). Just because you didn't agree with it doesn't mean it was bullying.

You said the Head of the school said you had a warped sense of reality. might I kindly suggest that he may have a point? You seem at odds with people in real life and also you are dismissing an awful lot of valuable advice here too.

I think you should stop posting here, its not helping. Please do go back to your doctor and discuss again your mental health issues. I am not bullying or being malicious..I am however very worried for you and your kids.

please consider it?

Cheerio then

oooo, another 'bullying' thread turning into a Shakespeare quote-off. The chickens will be along in a minute, right?

I don't see much point in engaging with the OP, I read some of the water bottle thread and I don't think she will ever listen or recognise her own behaviour is anything other than perfect. However, I would say this this is a really good example of why AIBU should be looked at again - this week in particular it seems to be THE place for random questions and posts that would be better off elsewhere.

I read waterbottlegate, but couldn't be arsed to post - you were getting some good and helpful advice there, which you chose to completely ignore. If you wanted everyone to agree with you, why bother posting?

If you don't feel that MN is for you, there are lots of other parenting sites, which might suit you better.

Toodle pip.

I really dont want to get involved..... But Violet...... people ARE nice here, they DO want to help you. You might have had situations in the past that have made you think that most people are nasty, dont like you or dont want to help you, but its not true. People are nice and do want to help, but are you really listening to what they are saying? Do you understand the advice they are giving? Mumsnet is full of some very clever people, who are full of really good advice who could really help you. Put it all behind you, dont go away, but listen carefully to what everyone says and dont shout at anyone. Try to work out how mumsnet works and see the GOOD not the bad.
There are other places you can get help, support, understanding and love. Is there a friendly church near you? Open yourself up to light and happiness, theres lot s of it around. The more light there is in your life the better you can see things. Smile, be happy, see the positive.

sorry you feel upset OP.

I guess some of the responses on this thread illustrate nicely what you mean about bullying

Some people just love jumping on a bandwagon, there can be a bit of a pack mentality when a controversial poster is down.

Good luck.

which ones chandon (genuinely interested to be pointed in direction of bullying)

Chandon, the waterbottle thread was written like an AIBU although it was in Primary Ed.

I, and many others, tried very hard to give positive advice, most of which was ignored.

I find it concerning that despite the 12 hours of posting on that thread Violet didn't alter her perspective in any way at all. There was no amendment of thought process, no alteration in activity.

Her DS has SN that means he doesn't understand instructions like 'hand in your homework'.
There was a school trip with 2 months notice which was not noted by her, mentioned by the childminder (who has a son in her class) or reminded by school.
On the school trip she thought the teacher deliberately chose not to give her DS a drink as a direct result of her ds looking ill upon returning.
She didn't check with the teacher, but went straight to the head.
The head told her to pull her neck in or look for another school
She then contacted the activity centre to look for 'holes in the school's story'
She then started a thread.
She then mentioned that her DS was not given (or told to have) a drink when he gets up in the morning 'as there are drinks available at school'.

As posters we pointed out

1. No water at breakfast is a massively bad idea.
2. His sn may have meant that he didn't understand the instruction to 'take his drink' or that he may not have mentioned to the teacher or any other classmates that he didn't have a drink.
3. That no teacher would refuse a drink to a child knowingly.
4. That checking with the teacher first before going to the head would have been more sensible.
5. That headteachers suggest moving schools as a very much last resort.
6. That no matter that a second letter was deemed necessary by the op, that a note on the calendar/diary upon receipt of the first letter would have been the work of moments.

It wasn't bullying. Or bitchy. It was concerned, helpful, forthright and questioning.

This feels very much like throwing toys out of the pram.

I need to add to point 2. That a very helpful poster suggested having a drink attached to his belt/trouser loops so that this could never happen again.

It was ignored on the grounds that 'he has a bottle at school'.

Violet79.

Don't go, I reckon you'd fit right it!

Namechange and come back - dust yourself down and start again.

Violet - delete your account and register with a different name. Go to Talk at the top of the page then All Topics then Education then Special Educational Needs. You will find very helpful (and patient!) posters there who will be supportive of you and your family and help you with your dealings with the school. There is also a topic on General Health that might be of some help.
As a new poster, putting a problem in Am I Being Unreasonable is like being thrown to the lions and I'm guilty of being one of the pack myself sometimes. One of the problems last night was that you were trying to reply to every poster. The thread was moving extremely quickly and your posts were not making sense because your reply was about 30 posts behind the current one! It's best just to sign off to save getting frustrated.