MNHQ input please

[Rhymenoseros]

Dear MNHQ I am considering starting a sexual abuse survivors thread and I would like your input. is it something you would allow on the talkboards and if so where is the best place for it? I feel some guidelines, and advice for those in crisis would be required, and actually whether its a good idea that would bring comfort to people? I am also concerned about trolls.
Please could i have your thoughts on this?
thanking you in advance

Poking my nose in here, I would suggest that you invite people to join a private group, keeping a request thread open on here to point to it. Only because I think it would probably attract the same kind of trolls that plague Feminism and more recently, Relationships. With your own group, you at least have the jurisdiction to unceremoniously boot them out, which doesn't happen often enough here, IMO.

I would have my own rule, personally, that if anybody whinged about free speech, they would get red buttoned immediately. But that's another thread.

Good luck with it anyway- it sounds very worthwhile, and I hope you find the right place for it.

Agree with LeBOF. The last thing you'd want would be for some fuckwit to turn up and start spouting hurtful bollocks.

Thirded

Rhyme, have you seen how some of the most sensitive threads, that you think any decent person would respect, get derailed by doubters and attention-seekers ? It is very upsetting. The main crux of the thread is often lost as people are rightly outraged by anyone who would do that.

I hope that MNHQ seeing the responses to this thread so far, will add to a growing sense that they are not tough enough with the "concern" trolls, the "what about me" derailers and the ones who seek to minimise others distressing experiences for their own dubious satisfaction.

Aside from the obvious trolls, you can't know if multiple identities are being used to post different stories, for whatever reason. (Has happened before I think on sensitive threads, not nice.) Mind you that is true of all internet forums.

How long ago, arpeggio ?

We do seem to have found ourselves a relatively new sub-species of troll recently

Yes, there have been lots of supportive threads, I have contributed to and been helped by many of them

But if anyone were to ask me if it was a good idea to post such sensitive info right now, I would say no

Hi Rhymenoseros,

Thank you for posting about this. It is a tricky one for all of the above reasons but a lovely idea if it offers advice and support.

We would suggest that you start a thread in Off the beaten track as this area of Mumsnet is not googleable BUT do bear in mind that it is searchable within Mumsnet.

We'll give some thought to whether there's a better solution or not.

Any other suggestions/thoughts on this please do let us know.

I would love for there to be a thread like this at the moment. But agree with the other posters that it isn't going to work at the moment. Which makes me very angry. I have got so much support from MN women on this kind of stuff in the past, and it is appalling that it has got to the situation where we can't have these conversations because the problems aren't being tackled. It's what MN used to be really good at.

www.napac.org.uk/

For those who are wary of posting but want advice then this is a good place to start

thankyou everyone for replying, i do like the idea of a private group but not sure how it would work-is it all done on the private messaging? I am really tired tonight so i will re-read this in the morning and look forward to more input from mumsnetters and MNMQ

A private FB group, maybe ?

I think this would really be worth thinking about. There are other groups, too, for whom it would be fantastic - so people could "meet" on MN but then maintain a private group, inviting others to join as they appeared.

Being safe from journalists would be particularly important. It is so shite to be exploited by them.

It would be so much better to have this kind of group on MN than on FB.

That's a great idea baudetdepoitou

I don't know if there could be a form of spin-off self-help micro-site, under the aegis of MN. Affiliated to, but not necessarily run by, that kind of thing. Maybe even run by the relevant charity?

Hi all - I haven't seen the thread where MNers are talking about this yet and afaik, we haven't found a better solution to this as yet.
But if you need it moved to OTBT we'll happily do so as an interim measure. HTH
Thanks

hi just checking back in so you know i haven't forgotten