MUMSNET a serious and I think important suggestion

[ImGideonsMumAndIHateHimToo]

After a week of allsorts and watching a DV escapee being torn apart for her benefits elsewhere, I would like a safe support zone which is the posting opposite of AIBU where people can ask questions when really vulnerable and scared and not get ripped apart.

I recognise a lot of points amde by people are valid but there is AIBU and politics for that, that system isn;t working though.

I think it could be invaluable as ATM MN has lost teh support aspect it had when I joined 320 yaers ago.

Thanks.

I'm not sure inciting a lynch mob is self-moderating.

I meant report, Bruxeur: that was what people suggested below, no?

Mind, I posted elsehwere as well- becuase saying that sort of thing about DV is dangerous.

I also reported to MN.

You invited her to share that opinion. And she is getting flamed for it, and have the others who have posted similarly stupid opinions.

Yes, becuase I wanted to find out iif she actually meant that or has not read post.

You can;t srgue with teh obscure

And LG is right, it;'s being dealt with better now, but wasn;t when I posted here.

Yes, I reported that to MN as it could actually enndanger someone.

you've had a lot of shit but you are strong Lenin (from what I can see, I could clearly be wrong)

I imagine my mate though- blimey she's messed up! Anorexic, kids might be taken away, H in prison but too scared to divorce, you know the type...

It wouldn't take much and she's not the only one like her out there.

I think in principle a safe zone is a good idea, but addition to the trolling issue, I'd also worry how easy it would be for DV partners to be found/identified there. It's a bit like saying 'OVER HERE!' with a big arrow surely? It would have to be closed in some way to protect against this, and I'm not sure that would work given the general anonymity of MN...

mm.

but ther ahs to be somewhere WS, no?

And Dv is only one aspect: so many other posts that could be on there I think.

ATM we are waiitng to see if LL wants to rent out to us; we've become self employed (one carer, one redundancy, best fit for us) and SE = a no go but OTOH we've paid every month for over five eyars and we are good tenants.

Would I post randomly? Nah, i'd attract the attack people.

I;d go from carer ' S?e to benefits person who never worked and taks drugs and murders small kittens in twenty seven posts.

But soemtimes I need to express what I am scared of and not to thsoe who worry about me, if that makes sense?

Only an example of course.

AllowMeToSay sounds like an excellent idea - especially if the guidelines at the top said something like:

"This isn't AIBU - posters here are looking for a safe place to vent or to talk about something, so please keep it supportive and non-confrontational."

Yep- allowmetosay, with that caveat. Bang on.

I tried to reply on your facebook (I'm EH in your friends list but have namechanged because someone has put my real name and mumsnet nickname on their blog - so hope you don't think I am a troll).

haunting i lost track years ago I never think troll LOL

You can message me on FB if you want

As an alternative if canijustsay doensn;t wpork, Sally used to have a MN area called simply 'TheCupboard' whcih was a similar sort ofp set up.

Could we formalise teh cupboard?

sad that MN HQ haven't posted, but tis the weekend. so hopefully they will next week

trouble with "safe threads" is you have a lot of people chatting and it is hard to join in.

I'm in the middle of a divorce and don't dare talk about it here - I'm worried I'd get torn to shreds. Not that I think I'm in the wrong but after seeing what happened to poor Icelandic awhile back, I just couldn't bear being put through additional guilt and nastiness.

Being a parent is so tough, such an enormous responsibility! I always assumed that MN was created to support parents, not belittle them.

Honestly, I don't know what the solution is. If there is one. And I think that's why we haven't heard from HQ... they don't know what to do either.

bump?