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Hiding specific posters...again!

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Imbecileningles · 22/09/2010 19:58

Sorry to bring this up again, I know it's been requested many times.

But in the light of the recent upheaval I've seen a few people reiterate that it would be something they'd benefit from so wondered if the stance may have altered at all.

I understand the thing about threads maybe not making total sense without certain posts but surely that's for the individual to cope with, if they have chosen to ignore someone...also I've seen it on a lot of other forums and it seems to work, I'm not sure how.

It isn't so much the odd post here and there on a thread, anyway...that's fine, I can ignore that. But if someone is really prolific and starts many threads per day, it would be such a relief not to see these all the time in Active threads.

I'd be grateful for an update as to whether you might be considering this option, somewhere on the back burner.

Thanks.

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Francagoestohollywood · 24/09/2010 14:27

What hula said

daftpunk · 24/09/2010 14:28

Hulababy;

I used to think like you - but some posters have specific problems. a "hide poster" option would be most welcome to me.

Bring it on.....or off in this case.

2shoes · 24/09/2010 15:15

please no
I once thought it would be a good idea, then I grew up.
imagine if everyone ignored the same person

DuelingFanjo · 24/09/2010 15:17

what's the 'recent upheaval'?

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Imbecileningles · 24/09/2010 15:57

'If you know the poster IRL and they are happy with you knowing their nickname and vice versa then just behave like an adult and get on with it.'

No, that's not the case. If it were that simple I would and have got on with it in the past. (if that makes any sense)

This isn't half as pleasant.

Hulababy - please don't be paranoid, no one else either - if you were involved you would be all too aware of it, honestly, it's an ongoing issue.

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Original poster
Imbecileningles · 24/09/2010 15:58

By 'recent upheaval' I meant the changes to the boards this week.

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pagwatch · 24/09/2010 16:07

I have a few posters I can't stand. I am sure that many more than a few can't stand me. But when they post I just don't get dragged into their line of posting. And when I post they mostly do the same.

I think it is a great idea if you are 12. You can also not speak to them at break and invite everyone but them to your party [ner]

I can't imagine anything worse than posting on a thread and feeling paranoid that half the people on there have hidden you.

StealthPolarBear · 24/09/2010 16:10

wukter, can I join wukternet?

OP, just out of curiosity (and feel free to ignore me - but not to hide me :o) what can upset you? I can get quite riled up by certain posters on the bf/ff threads but I can't imagine how hiding their posts would make me 'feel' any better - I choose to get involved in the ruck! OTOH if we're talking very nasty stuff such as bereavement, then that's different. But surely there can't be many of them about and almost all will be trolls?

DanceInTheDark · 24/09/2010 16:13

If this were RL and you were in a room with this poster, you have the option to avoid them or you have the option to leave. You would never have the option of simply not seeing them.

This would be abused far too easily. EG i ignore Pagwatch (because she is just above me in replies-not because i actually dislike her) then i call her all kinds of things because i can't see her replies.

And would this apply if she then name changes?

WHat upheavals? there have been a few tweaks but nothing major - unless i view a different MN?

DreamTeamGirl · 24/09/2010 16:16

Most forums I know have the option
I have used it twice short-term and once longterm
In both instances it stopped me getting arsey and ruining the experience for everyone, and I find it useful

I really dont see it as bithcy or lacking in backbone to avoid the company of those people who upset and annoy you, just as you would in real life

grumpypants · 24/09/2010 16:19

This post cannot be read as the poster irritates you immensely

daftpunk · 24/09/2010 16:24

Agree DTG;

What's childish about not wanting to be around people who annoy and irritate you?

I'm sure it would only be used very occasionally anyway - I can only think of 3 people (off the top of my head, who I would block)....so I really can't see what the problem is?

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Imbecileningles · 24/09/2010 16:58

this is it basically - it's ignore or leave, and it's really hard to ignore when a person posts multiple threads per day.

I don't want to leave so am trying to ignore.

I want to reiterate for those who haven;t read the whole thread perhaps that a semi consensus was reached that hiding threads started by a particular person would be OK, while hiding individual posts on random threads was neither necessary nor desirable.

It's not an essential but I am really bothered by someone I know IRL.
I also find the suicide threads very, very difficult, especially the ones I suspect are not genuine and may be long running, but those are dead very easy to hide usually

Stealth, the trolls are the worst. I would love to hide some trolls, because there's nothing else you can do about them.

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snoozathon · 24/09/2010 17:11

Snoozathon has chosen to hide this post from you.

pagwatch · 24/09/2010 17:28

DTG

I understand what you mean and I agree that avoiding someone you dislike.

Where I guess i differ is that ignoring or avoiding means something different to me.To me that means that when I see someone I don't like I just don't engage with them and discreetly move away or turn to speak to someone else.
I don't tend to feel the need to leave the room or put my hands over my ears when they speak - tempting as that would be sometimes

What I think is a bit childish is the inability to just accept that they are they and choose not to engage. But I don't dislike anyone so much that I can't even bear to see what they have posted without being incensed or pushed to the point of leaving.
Imbecileningles is obviously having issues with a poster beyond the 'just ignore' thing so maybe she has had a more common experience than I thought.

Bucharest · 24/09/2010 17:36

It doesn't work at all on other forums. It just turns them into even more of a paranoid bitchfest than they already are. Because whenever someone blocks someone they can't resist gobbing off about the fact that they've done it and everyone gets twitchy.

pagwatch · 24/09/2010 17:38

Confused I mean 'agree with avoiding someone you dislike...'

pinkbasket · 24/09/2010 17:41

I think this is an impossible thing to do. I also think it could be about me if the OP is who I think they are and I think it is totally out of order.

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Imbecileningles · 24/09/2010 19:02

Well Pinkbasket if you're who I think YOU are, you often think people know you, or you know them, or used to know them, IRL even when it's extremely unlikely they or you do.

So don't worry Wink

To name the person would have been out of order, but that isn't something I would do.

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OracleInaCoracle · 24/09/2010 19:10

i really dont see what would be gained by hiding certain posters. there are a few that i dont "get on with" wouldnt dream of hiding them anymore than i would ignore someone i know in the supermarket. what you would get would be an elitist atmosphere with more... confrontational posters being blocked. not nice and i would certainly leave if this would be the future of mn.

Gigantaur · 24/09/2010 19:11

but just because the thread is started by someone you don't like doesn't mean the thread itself is not worthy of reading.

you can already mark the OP's posts so that would make it easier to just skim her posts without reading them.

the rest of the thread, which usually convelutes anyway so you may be missing out on a real classic because you are being a little childish.

pinkbasket · 24/09/2010 19:26

Imbecileningles - "often" is an over reaction and while you might think I am paranoid I do have major reasons for not being found on here.

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Imbecileningles · 24/09/2010 19:28

That would make more sense then. I noticed you mentioned to Lewisfan the other day that you thought you knew her, and wondered what thatw as all about. Thanks for explaining.

To reassure you, unless you post about woodland creatures a fair bit it isn't you.

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pinkbasket · 24/09/2010 19:32

With regards to Lewisfan I know absolutely nothing about her but there is something about her name that makes me think she is familiar. There is absolutely no logical reason for this HmmGrin.

I have no clue about woodland creatures either!

daftpunk · 24/09/2010 19:34

Well I think the option should be there.

On a site that has 1000's of members I can't see what difference a few people being hidden will make to anything. and if it adds to the enjoyment of MN for someone....that has to be a good thing. why does it have to be a punishment almost..."you have to put up with that annoying twit whether you like it or not".....??