My daughter has been treated really badly by her old best friend.
my daughter was inseparable with another child for the whole of reception and year 1. At the end of year 1 her mum messaged me to say she was moving to a different class. My daughter and I were left absolutely heartbroken. Mum implied that the girls could remain the best of friends even though they were going to be in different classes. Since then this mum has made zero effort for the girls to remain friends. In the meantime I was arranging play dates so my daughter could see that it was possible to still be friends even though they were in different classes. My daughter was hurting so badly and I would do anything to make her feel happy and soften the blow. i had a year of sleepless nights over the whole thing as I felt totally rejected for my child.
my daughter struggled her way through year 2 while the other girl was thriving in her new class with her new friends which was also hard to witness. At this point I was struggling to talk to the girls parents (we used to walk to school together everyday!) for everything I feel like they put us through but continued to be the considerate one as I hate confrontation. It has been the most difficult situation.
it is now nearly 2 years on and my daughter made some new friends and is doing ok as I have worked hard to build her confidence and develop her hobbies etc. however her new best friends are now both leaving the school, I feel like my daughter has been unlucky and I feel nervous as to how she will feel about going to school in September when they are no longer there.
the old best friends new friends are now not very nice to my daughter. I think they feel like this child is now ‘there’s’. It’s hard to explain but I am pretty sure none of the girls talk to my daughter and just kind of stare at her. I’m now feeling a sense of relief that it didn’t work out because I wouldn’t want my daughter to be part of a group of girls who stand around the playground staring at other girls. It sounds as though she is best out of it but I still find this so so sad considering how close they once were.
this year my daughter was invited to her party by the mother and then the invitation was retracted. I think this has been the final straw for us. I heard my daughter say to my son ‘she’s not my friend anymore, she’s just someone I know.’ So so sad.
the mum feels terrible for ‘uninviting’ my daughter from the party and is now trying to arrange a pity party with my daughter to make up for it. just seems weird that she’s been invited around for a sleepover when her daughter doesn’t talk to my daughter at school! She says her daughter really wants her to come around…is this really true or is it just to ease the mums guilt! There was a time my daughter would have loved this but it seems somewhat cruel to send my daughter around to their house.
anyway I’m not to sure what I’m hoping this post will achieve its the middle of the night and I’ve woken up thinking about it and just thought I would put it out there. It’s a complex situation and I am sad we have somewhat been caught up in it.