Dd (4.5) has had a v hard time lately, I want to get her a fantastic dress for Saturday ... any ideas?

[imaginaryfriend]

For anyone who's been following my thread about dd and her recent health problems this will make more sense. But without going into it all again here she's a lovely girl, has been a total trooper through an extremely tough few months and is going to a dear friend's party at the weekend. I've been so stressed about her that I haven't even thought about what she might wear and would like to treat her to something really special. I've been scouting around online and can't find a thing. Maybe I'm too late to order something before Saturday anyhow ...

She doesn't like pink, super girly type things but loves bright colours and flower / stripey type patterns.

oh dear, that sounds pretty bloody awful. is she in pain?

Whilst I'm ranting a bit, which I find I'm doing a lot lately, I'm so utterly sick and tired of people putting their faces into dd's face and saying 'ooh, what's happened there?' A woman stopped us today and said 'have you tried Aloe Vera cream for that?' and I wanted to weep. If only it could be cured with Aloe Vera!!

Enough. Back to dresses.

dd was bought this for her birthday

It looks lovely on - looks nothing in the pic.

Sometimes, Aitch. Her eyes bother her a lot. Her genitals drive her nuts most of the night especially now it's hot. And putting some of the creams on has her literally shrieking in pain. I hate that part. And the way I have to explain it makes me feel like such a shit.

and also this one DD wore on her birthday with a white crochet bolero very lovely.

Yes, it's like they think you haven't noticed or something. I did actually respond very angrily to the Aloe Vera woman today. Which I regret. But she did say it in such a know-it-all way.

Sorry IF..Ihad no idea what your poor dd has ben going through. I have just read through your post.
Having three girls myself I know how difficult it would be to see their outer beauty damaged ( even temporarily) but she sounds like she has far more inner beauty than alot of girl her age.

I sincerely hope that somthing will start to show an improvement for her skin soon.

fark! i didnt know me mum spent £28 on a holey cardigan

It IS gorgeous though.

IF - your DD sounds like a real trouper. Its hard when you have to do something that causes them pain in order to make them better. You are bound to feel guilty. (Raisin d'etre of a parent anyway). But you are doing the very best you can for her, dont forget that.

oh god, that sounds appalling. poor child. and poor you and her dad, it must be hellish. i hope that it will be over soon, fingers crossed your Big Cheese will have the answer.
she looks like a right wee cracker in the photo, i'd have to say.

and she said: 'Great Ormond Street hospital recommend this cream' - having spent most of yesterday there I wondered if I should perhaps return and ask the consultant if he'd forgotten to mention Aloe Vera?

Ah yes 'advice' and 'diagnosis' from strangers. Gotta love that. Or my fave when DD was 8 weeks old "eeewwww whats that all over her?" said with a curled up nose and squinty eyes.

VVV it is a lovely cardigan.

I really am spoilt for choice here now. I'm going to drag dp in to look later and he can help me choose. I'd get dd to choose but I really want to surprise her. I want her to feel that 'I'm a beautiful little girl' thing they all do which is often a bit embarrassing but right now seems just blissful.

We've had a host of 'yuck' comments from kids to dd too. Even one of her friends said 'eeurrk what's that horrible messy face doing here?' which really upset dd. Then there was the 'who's pretty?' conversation at school from which dd was banned because she's 'covered in spots'.

And even on the tube I see adults staring at her just a bit too much. Fortunately she's quite an oblivous dreamy type and so long as I'm chatting away to her about something she won't pay attention to what other people are doing.

Might it be a nice treat for her to go and try a load of dresses on though? Just an idea.....

imaginaryfriend, this won't help in time for Saturday, but if you can find anything/thing of anything pretty I could knit for her I would be only too glad to help. I could do my damndest to find some rabbit buttons if that would help. Do say, I love knitting girly things and have a huge stash of suitable yarns

I would love that, vvv, but she gets very hot and bothered with getting clothes on and off. She sees something, says 'let's get it!" and that's it. Same with shoes. She sees a pair she likes, wants them and that's it. She doesn't do compare and contrast!

oh dear, you must want to reach over and rip their throats out... do you have good support, IF, you must really need it...

The cruelty of kids is so sad.

I could just sit here & weep for her, but she has you & her dad & she is a gorgeous little person.

That's so kind Tamum. She's crazy about rabbits, her bedroom wall next to her bed is a shrine to rabbit pictures. She'd probably go nuts for a knitted hat with some kind of rabbity affair on it. We've never found one. Turquoise is her favourite colour. I wouldn't normally leap on this offer but I'm so keen to treat her at the moment it would be marvellous.

Aitch it's all still quite new to deal with. For much of the last few months we've been thinking she was just developing extremely bad eczema. I think the progression of the last month has knocked us for six though.

My mum is fabulous but she's many miles away from me and in her 70s. We've got some good local friends close by who are very understanding and are helping dd to still feel 'normal.'

I don't always think dp is handling it that well. I think he's trying but he finds it very painful to see.

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