Pre booked one night stand

[Fuloo2]

hi,

just looking for some advice as I’m new to all of this.

im a single mum to a little girl, dad not in the picture and she’s staying at my mums for the weekend as I haven’t had a break in months.

im going through a dry spell (2 years) so thought I would go on hinge. Got talking to somebody and we have both been honest with each other, we are just after one thing.

I’ve never done anything like this before but I am looking forward to it. However he isn’t from round here and is going to be travelling up and spending the night in a hotel.
we have agreed to go for a few drinks and then see what happens. He has invited me to the hotel but I was thinking of inviting him back to mine.

is this wrong inviting him to my home, I feel guilty inviting a man in my daughters home but I would rather do this then go to a hotel.
im Also struggling with guilt and feel a bit like a floozy!
any advice would be lovely xx

Hotel meet yes. I would keep him at arms length re him at yours. Have a great night.

Yeah, don't invite him to your home. You know nothing about him, about his intentions nor about his character.

In a hotel he won't get to know your address, so if he turns out to be a wrong'un he can't find you easily again.

In a hotel there are people in the building on the end of a phone, in the bedrooms next door, so that, if things go catastrophically bad, you won't be on your own

I'm sorry, I don't mean to pour cold water on your plans, but you've asked for advice and mine is: take care of yourself. If he turns out to be lovely, you can laugh about your fears later; and if he turns out to be a shit, you've kept yourself safe.

If say hotel. Best he doesn't know where you live, and it's best as a one night thing away from home

Hotel. If you don't like him or just fancy going home at 3am you can. Plus you don't have to worry about neighbours or the state of the bedclothes afterwards!

Have a great time. 😁

Yes actually I agree!

thanks everyone x

Nowt wrong with being a floozy ;)

Yeah agree with this. He is a total stranger and could be dangerous. I heard in the radio today rape described as being virtually classed as a non crime because a 0.5% conviction rate means its more or less de-criminalised.
That's was a woman from a rape charity speaking about the Russel brand case on the radio today.

Be very, very careful. You don’t know this man and I certainly wouldn’t invite him to your home.

Just out of curiosity, would people still go?

100%, go enjoy yourself! Hotels are the best, can be as loud as you want…

Absolutely!

No.

My advice would be definitely the hotel and if you quite like him, have some kissing before heading to the room.
I met someone at a hotel once, got on well, he was attractive, decided what the hell, I'll go to the room. Worst kisser ever in the world and I did not know what to do lol

Would I go? I would if I felt confident in my ability to bail if it wasn't working for me. If you're a people pleaser or would feel really uncomfortable calling a halt to proceedings if he was all worked up and raring to go, then I would rather not put myself into that situation. If I was the kind of person who is happy saying 'sorry, enough now, I'm done" then I would go for it.

Myself, I know I've not got enough self-confidence; I would be worried that I'd led him on and so would feel I had to go through with it. I know that would be wrong of me, but I am self aware enough to recognise my weaknesses

we have agreed to go for a few drinks and then see what happens

That’s your time to suss him out, hopefully there is a bar downstairs? Get details of where the hotel is and check out parking or taxi availability.

Plus in a hotel, there is a record of who he is, his credit card details, CCTV etc.

Definitely don't let him find out your address/take him back there. I'd also be wary about putting to much pressure on yourself to go through with it, given your circumstances. If you have any doubts or second thoughts at all, walk away rather than go back to his room (have an exit strategy). Don't just carry on and sleep with him out of desperation (I suspect many of us have made regrettable decisions after a long dry spell).

Try not to worry about the guilt. Enjoy the experience! Take some obvious precautions though. Is there anyone you can tell about your plans so you can check in about your safety? In all probability he's a gentleman and will be great fun to be with, but just in case he isn't, it's a good idea to have a plan B.

@Fuloo2 Why are you just looking for sex and not a real relationship? This won’t fulfil you in the long term.

In the nicest possible way, what's it got to do with you? Maybe she wants short-term fulfilment!!

Although there was a post complaining about loud hotel sex the other day…but I agree what you!!

Hotel!

At least you don’t have to bother changing your own bed straight away…

But very much yes to having a good smooch beforehand and practice saying no sorry I’m just not feeling the chemistry here.

And remember even later on - you can still say no to anything further.

Enjoy!

Don’t feel guilty for a dick appointment!

I’d go hotel as you’re free to leave but harder to remove him from your house politely when you’ve had enough…

Well actually you can’t.

Meet him in the bar first , see if there's chemistry. Don't take him home at this stage. Nothing wrong with being promiscuous!

Don’t take him home. Easier to leave a hotel. But don’t drink too much.