really miss it!

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i really miss sex but dont have time for a proper relationship (lone parent) i am
not into causal ONS or FWB so those are not an option. its becoming a problem though and i really miss it. not really any solution just a vent and just wondered if anyone was in the same boat?

Yeah, I miss it too. (Different circumstances.) But I've found that the longer it goes, whilst I don't miss it any less, the easier it is to accept the fact that that ship has sailed.

I don’t see you’ve got any options.

I have a FWB. She lives three hours away. Neither of us wants a full relationship. We meet every four or five weekends. Often meet halfway. We get a hotel. We have a naughty night and then do something nice next day. It works perfectly for us. We’ve also been on two holidays. We’ve been all over.

Forget the label FWB and think more in terms of friend and lover. I meet my F&L 3 to 4 times a year for long weekends and sometimes for a week in a city or area of interest and to have the couple experience as well as scratching that itch you're describing. Where there's a will, there's a way

Thanks all but again that doesn't appeal
in the slightest more just wanted to vent 😅

Thanks I was the same but 10 years gone by now thought it would get easier and it did until recently 😳

In real terms, I'm about a year ahead of you and only just starting to accept it. Hang on there. 🤣
In all seriousness, the turning point for me was deleting all dating apps. Giving up that last vestige of deluded hope has been slightly easier than pretending there was hope.

By the sounds of it the only thing that will work will be a proper relationship, everyone is busy so there are lots of people that don't have time for a relationship, you have to make time in my opinion, if you find the right person they will aid you in finding that time by halving the load....

my children are with me full time and cant have men ive just met around them 🙂

Yeah i understand, and you have no access to family, babysitters etc that could watch them for an hour every now and again so you can have some time for yourself?

no my family wouldn’t have them for me to have a life no chance 🤣 they wouldnt like that!

That sounds selfish doesn't it, i know it's a horrible situation to be in, my wife used to have me round after she'd put the kids to bed for a couple of hours, then i'd go home so they didn't see me in the morning. When the time was right i was then introduced to them. Not always easy i know and not everyone in this world can be trusted...

Exactly the same position!

My children are with me full time, their dad has them very occasionally, but he's not bothered by them.

I won't be bringing anyone into their lives or blending families, but God I do miss some intimacy.

I'm also not a FWB or ONS person. I don't have male friends particularly, so that's never going to happen.

I feel ya OP.

I like this.

thank you! im glad its not just me, i know it cant be but it feels that way sometimes! its awful because its not a choice you just have to accept it. im only 38 and its been 10 years 😢

Yes, i absolutely get it. I am 39, my youngest is 6, so they'll be with me a long time yet and knowing that I don't get any romance, intimacy or sex (with no interest in a ONS) for many more years yet is really disappointing.