Is it a thing?

[NoNakedJacuzzzis]

Genuine question.

My DW is fairly reserved. The other night watching TV after her shower we were joking about and she mockingly went to suck her own nipple for a laugh. Something she’s never done before ever! I laughed at the time but I can’t get over how hot it was. Probably because it was so out of character but Christ it was hot.

The issue is I absolutely know she was not I a sex place in her head and obviously don’t want to F@&k anything up here but is it a thing or is it just a porn thing . If I told her how I feel is it reasonable to ask her to do it again in a bedroom context. Or do i risk her never ever joking about because I’ll stupidly interpret it wrong?

Its a ridiculous question to ask random women I know we’ve been together far to long to not discuss these things yet here I am

Any advice greatly appreciated.

I think it’s totally acceptable to ask the person you love and are intimate with. Honesty and the safe space to say no yes or no without judgement is important.

my DH could come to me with anything he fancied and I’d be happy to discuss and consider. It doesn’t mean it’s always going to be yes. I personally wouldn’t like it if there was something in his head that was getting him off, but he didn’t feel we could share it.

However, I am not reserved!

it’s great when these accidental things surface. The other day my DH randomly sucked my toe fur a very brief moment - never done it before and I can’t believe how wild it made me feel. Must remember to tell him about that!

My partner has asked me to do this before but my boobs are definitely not big enough for that! We just laughed about it and carried on. I don't see any harm in letting your dw know this would be a turn on for you - its not really a shocking thing to ask for - however only you know how reserved she is.

Nothing wrong with letting your DW know how hot you found it, maybe tell her when you’re being intimate so she doesn’t feel awkward about having done it? I do it from time to time when we’re being intimate, it drives my DH wild!

Thanks, I really appreciate your reply. Its just one of those weird things that is has surprised me how hot it was /is and its reasuring that I am not alone in that. Although I am still unsure if the out of character bit has played a part.

@TheDr46
I know you are right that we should be able to discuss it. I wish she wasnt so reserved. She isnt and is held back by somthing. I need to find my words dont I.

PS Glad I have remindeded you about the toes. It is funny how when you have been together a while how you can still find new things out about each other..

Not something that would ever be possible for me but in a similar way, anything to do with me touching myself absolutely blows hubby's mind, which makes me more inclined to do it. If your DW is like me she will enjoy something purely because it turns you on.

Apart from the more extreme porn, (I don't think many of us have had sex worth 200 men have we? Or maybe I've had a sheltered life) most of the stuff you see in porn is what people do anyway. Definitely not my cup o of tea, but I used to have a friend who liked to both receive and give golden rain. Anal is common as far as i know. In Brazil it is routinely used as contraception by teenagers. In the usa it is used by teenagers because they think god doesn't regard it as sex, so they haven't used their virginity if they use their bums. (Look up God's loophole by garfunkel and oates.) I used to think ejaculation on women's faces was definitely porn derived but I've had friends said they love it. I think we've all had a go at a threesome in our 20s haven't we?

I think the problem with porn is that it portrays women as being constantly up for this sort of thing.

Is it a porn thing OP?

@Lugol if Ive understood your question correctly then I don’t know which is why I asked.

I am not a too inexperienced but have never experienced a woman doing it and prior to this week has never considered asking anyone to do it .

I have seen it in porn both pictures and videos since the late 80’s which is why I wondered if it was a thing?