Don’t want sex when my partner is unwell…

[Lalaland82]

My partner has been unwell will mono for 4 weeks now, and I have been caring for him of course. He spends most of the days in bed, which is unusual for him and he is genuinely poorly. But as he is starting to feel slightly better he is now fancying sex again. I am first of all exhausted and he is still not well so don’t really fancy having sex with him right now… but have also read and heard that this could take months to get over, so not sure how to handle it. I generally like having sex with him, and he has never been ill for this long before. Just not sure how to approach it without making some damage… any tips in how to handle the conversation?

Perhaps just lay down and have an intimate cuddle and see if that kicks you up again?

If he was genuinely ill, then he couldn’t help it, and it’s a bit unfair if he feels he’s being punished.

This is not about gender - I’d say the same if a woman had been poorly.

Thanks for replying! And yes he was genuinely very ill, but the issue is sort of that he is still very ill, and it’s putting me off… 😬

Actually that completely worked @Boomer55 ! Just had a little nap and then asked him to just hold me, and just laid there for ages, without the pressure. Then slowly clothes came off and he continued to just hold me, until I could feel like I was connecting with him again! Thank you for your brilliant advice! ❤️

i can understand your situation, and what all you going throught, its sad, try to accomodate urself with him, try to ly down, cuddle around, slow and gently u will manage and things will be in place, hug him, what else can say, but yes you will be able to achieve what you want.

There you go 👍😉😉