Male Sex toys in DB

[Hopingagaistodda]

I am gently wanting a general opinion on owning and using male sex toy’s in a long term DB situation. There are issues around sexual pertaining to my wife’s past history which she is reluctant to get into. We are happy in many ways and we have children to consider. I am looking for more though and she wouldn’t be necessarily involved or aware of me using these items. Nothing sordid like a torso or a bottom just a generic sleeve or similar.

Not sure what DB is in this context but whatever you do with your own body is nobody else’s business.

I believe like pp you’re body your choice. The massive but here is you live with your wife who has “sexual issues” I would imagine if she were to discover a toy that she didn’t know you had or were using that it could be a big issue for her and your relationship despite what anyone on this predominantly pro sex forum tells you.

The fact you’re asking makes me think you know this. Also despite the prevalence of female sex toys. I do believe backed up from what I’ve read on MN that the wankanator 200 type mens toys can give a lot of women the Ick. I think it’s an interesting double standard but I do think it exists.

Id say you need to sit down and discuss your needs and potential solutions to both of your issues and will feel less gruby if you’re both on the same page x

ps I also don’t know what DB is and hope to god it’s not dear brother 😳

Apparantly, and I’ve just googled it, DB means ‘dead bedroom’ situation where sex rarely happens.

Who knew? 😉

@Boomer55

Few!

That makes sense

I think the only opinions that matter here are yours and your wife's.

However I was in a sexless marriage for some years and there is no way I could have talked to my ex about any sex toys I was thinking of buying! Fortunately I already owned two or three so just used them when he wasn't around.

So I guess for me, it's whatever gets you off through. But I have found since that being with someone who actually wants all of me is so much better. Good luck xxx

I own sex toys for solo use. It wouldn't bother me at all if OH had a fleshlight or similar for his own pleasure so long as he cleaned up after himself.

How open you are with each other determines if this is something you discuss. Having a wank and how you wank are your choice and no ones partner should seek to control that (provided it's not an inappropriate time/ place!)

Yeah and me. I used a vibe for years, then got my ‘ducks in a row’ and walked, after a lot of years.

I then remarried a lovely man, who I loved until he died.

Now, I’ve got a great part time partner.

Nothing really beats the human touch. 👍