Do some couples link sex to household chores being done?

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🤣🤣🤣 I found out last night my sister has sex with her husband based on chores he's done around the house! Is this something you do?

I've never done this, but I am wondering what a lot of ironing might equate to? 😁

I think people might be more receptive to sex if they feel like their partner is sharing the load. Might start hoovering in the nude..

Depends if it’s a couple ‘in joke’ or whether it’s actually what happens…..

Not so much Foreplay as Choreplay....

🤣🤣 very good.

I detest doing the ironing, that is the one task I will always ' reward '

No

Not directly, but I’m guessing women in particular feel more receptive if they aren’t totally stressed trying to do everything.

I can imagine couples doing this in a tongue in cheek, lighthearted sort of way. Like a chore in return for a sex act so to speak, but just as a laugh.

No. I have sex becasue I am horny and fancy my husband 😂

Have never done this, but I am currently chatting to a sub who wants to come and clean my house, in return for nothing. I'm very tempted.

No direct link however I did find that when we had young kids our sex life improved when I did more around the house.

It wasn't that my wife rewarded me but she was less tired and up for it a bit more.

I can understand that; 'Happy Wife Happy Life' and all that!

My Sister said the house has never been so clean 😂

Transactional sex? What an utterly appalling and manipulative idea. You might as well call it domestic prostitution.

My wife will lock me in a chastity cage and it only comes off when I please her enough. As I cant spend any time wanking and I get more and more desperate to cum I'll spend my time cleaning the house.

Shell rate it and the cage will only come off when she's happy, she's been known to add time on if its not done to her satisfaction.

My effeminate pal does 90% of my domestic chores with little or no reward whatsoever. Does it because he enjoys it.

Transactional is the word. So unappealing. I can maybe see past it if it's a one-off jokey thing... "Hey babe, load the dishwasher and I'll give you a BJ! 😂" But as an actual regular thing ... I can't imagine anything worse. And I'm a woman.

Interesting thread gonna be a bit boring but have any of you read “Fair Play” by Eve Rodsky? It’s a method for dividing domestic drudgery fairly but not necessarily equally. So for example Ironing = bins + garden + toilets. . Found it really useful to look at how we’d split it. .

The interesting part was there was lots on mental load but no mention of sex at all. Who takes responsibility, who makes time .and where it fitted in the relationship something we’d struggled with ( initiating) .id never thought but the reason is probably so this doesn’t happen. Ironing = polishing + BJ .

I suppose if it works for yup it works!

We would jokingly swap sex for DH getting up with the kids in the morning.

I don’t think it’s as simple as being transactional (although I quite enjoy transactional sex as a joke), it’s more that when your partner is actively lightening your load or putting in effort to please you, you are naturally going to be more interested in intimacy.

It just seems like weaponising sex and makes it like one person is going through the motions and that they’re quite happy not to have sex either

I've taken this in a playful manner; not a serious manner?

I'll need to think what my DW gets if she mows the lawn. That's a high value one isn't it 🤔

It really depends on the size of the lawn and whether any additional treatments are required - raking, feeding, re-seeding etc. Obviously, these would extend the range and nature of any reciprocal services. If you would like a copy of my handy guide to domestic incentive arrangements please get in touch, quoting the reference "Clean & Dirty".

Then there's filling the car's screen wash, painting the shed, assembling those Ikea shelves ... and that creaking floorboard ain't gonna fix itself.

My husband does our bedsheets if I squirt on it, been quite a long standing deal