Is this normal?

[Notnormal10]

Started dating a guy after my divorce. Was with ex husband for 15 years. First guy I’ve slept with since ex husband. The sex is good and passionate but whenever he finishes in me, nothing ever leaks out after? Fair enough we do usually lie for a while after and I’ve heard it can become absorbed. But I’m totally paranoid he’s faking it! If he is he’s very convincing Tbf! But with my ex in particular it gushed out after. If he finishes on me or in my mouth there’s plenty although it does kind of shoot out. Basically I’m just wondering if it can be normal to never leak fluid out after sex?

Are you not using contraception?!

He’s had a vasectomy

It can be normal, I have retrograde ejaculation so nothing comes out of me, but given he produces semen when finishing on you or in your mouth it won’t be this.

if he’s a man of a certain age he may well have delayed ejaculation which isn’t uncommon at all. If you’ve going at it for a while he may be conscious that you are getting bored or sore so he may well be faking it, which, as long as you are both satisfied shouldn’t really be an issue.

And some men, just like some women, can’t orgasm from PIV.

Do you know for absolute certainty that he’s had a vasectomy? It may well be that he hasn’t , and has lied so condoms aren’t used and therefore fakes his orgasm to avoid any ‘accidents’ this would explain why you only see him cum outside of you so to speak.

"... totally paranoid he’s faking it!"
Is he enjoying himself?
Are you enjoying yourself?
If the answers are yes, what's the problem? Expecting him to cum by the bucket load and getting stressed when he doesn't isn't good for your self esteem or his. Just enjoy him.

Sorry if this is too much information, but I’ve found it can vary. With a previous partner, I would find a big ‘gush’ a while afterwards, usually when I was up and about and gravity kicked in. With another, sometimes I would feel it, or have a leak, and other times not. I don’t know why it varies with the same guy, but have never suspected him of faking.

All partners would produce differents amount of semen, one ghe the first people i had PIV with did have a very large amount of ejaculate, and yes it literally used to run out of me, while other partners have never hsd that same effect so everyone must be slightly different

Could he be having a “warm up” OP before he meets with you? So that he lasts longer? This may explain why the end result is less than expected.

To clarify, I don’t expect him to cum bucket loads 😂 and I’m not saying if prefer it if it DID leak out. I guess it’s just something I haven’t experienced to have absolutely no leakage whatsoever after. I’m more concerned that he’s enjoying it and I want him to be satisfied. I will approach it with him because I think you should always be able to talk openly about sex with your partner but I wanted to see first how normal it could be. My friends say they usually leak even if it’s just a little bit. I just wondered if anyone had had an experience of it not happening that’s all.

It ebbs and flows 🤭

I might like it to flow a little more 😂

He might be faking it if he is just not getting there , could be loads of reasons

ive sometimes faked it if I just know it’s not gonna happen 🤷🏼‍♂️