I’ve recently met a lovely man through on a dating app. He’s in his late 40s and has quite a hyperactive personality and there are a few things about his sexual preferences that I wasn’t expecting.
He likes using a suction dildo during sex and seems to particularly enjoy using it as though it were his own penis. It’s not something I’d experienced before, but I’m not uncomfortable with it and I’ve been happy to go along with it.
I have noticed, though, that he sometimes struggles to maintain an erection. He has quite a strong interest in porn, has been single for a long time, and occasionally drinks heavily and uses recreational drugs. I’m wondering whether any of these things could potentially contribute to erectile difficulties.
I’m not embarrassed or put off by the erection issue at all, and I certainly wouldn’t want to make him feel self-conscious about it.
My main question is really about the dildo — is it relatively common for men to enjoy using a suction dildo as though it were their own penis during sex, particularly if they sometimes have difficulty getting or maintaining an erection? Or is it more unusual?
I’m genuinely just curious about other people’s experiences and whether this is something others have come across.