Where to find casual encounters as a woman

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I have spent many years being celibate and so done with it now so now it’s time to get back out there, only where do people find causal sex as a woman? I know online seems like the obvious answer but I don’t want to advertise it or for people to recognise me on there? (I think maybe not a pic then only showing on when moved to WhatsApp?) also is it safe meeting men online for sex? Another thing is I will only have school hours free due to being a lone parent so quite restrictive but I guess it’s better than nothing.

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I can recommend telegram of you are worried about giving out your WhatsApp

I agree with this. Set up a profile on fab, hide it immediately, and set your filters to no messages from single males, accounts without pics, new accounts etc. Then browse at your leisure. If you decide to message a guy, he can reply to you, despite having those filters set.

I personally immediately delete messages where the message is a generic copy & paste one, where they have a blank silhouette as their profile pic, where they have publicly viewable dick pics, where they have pics of a woman without her being tagged in it, where they have ‘will fill in later’ or ‘ask me anything’ on their profile, any first message containing a dick pic, etc etc. It’s a policy that’s served me well there over the years and I’ve met some great FWBs there. Good luck!

This isn't something I've done, but it's worth being aware of.

Facebook is better than a private detective when it comes to stalking skills. I have had several friend suggestions of people I've talked to on WhatsApp after meeting them on dating apps. So from knowing a first name or a possible alias, I've been offered their full name and whatever other information is publicly available on Facebook. (A surprising amount.)

I have to assume other people are getting suggested me as well! If you're concerned about this, either don't have a Facebook account or have info on it very heavily locked down, or talk to people on other apps not WhatsApp.

I just went and had a look at Facebook and in the privacy settings the default is that people with your phone number can have you suggested as a potential friend. I've turned that off now.

Anyway, back to the original question - the usual apps if you are straightforward. Feeld, We are X, and Fab/clubbing have been productive for me 😁 If you are seriously looking (I've recently started what looks like it will be a serious relationship (yay me) and have a couple of FWBs so I'm not), I would suggest paying for whichever app you use. E.g. on Feeld if you pay you can go incognito - you won't get seen by anyone unless you like them which is way less overwhelming.

I never give someone my phone number until I’ve met them in person and established we want to meet again. And sometimes even at that I use telegram.

Whatsapp is introducing usernames, the same as Telegram, so you don't have to give people your phone number for them to speak to you on Whatsapp.

It will be interesting to see if it still suggests people on Facebook after this. Apologies for helping to derail the thread.

They've been talking about that for a while though, haven't they?

And I think when talking about meeting men, thinking about meeting them safely has to be part of it. I have to say that I've never had any trouble and I've had a few potentially risky meets, but not everyone is lovely.

Its started to come in. I've reserved my username.

Probably! But, I couldn’t sleep with men for casual sex. I think my vagina would bolt up shut! I just couldn’t do it.

BobbityBoooo
Try POF or other dating sites.
Women really have a pick of men, it's just how it is, so goodnews for you.

Don't give your phone number to anyone you can set up discord which doesn't share your number or signal-you have to select hide number in settings.

Kik was a good first move off the websites. Is that no longer the case?

We only did telegram after we met.

@OfcourseitsaNC I used kik for a while, but i found it a bit unstable and full of ads and spam accounts that kept trying to make contact. I much prefer telegram now, but will be happy to use whatsapp when the usernames come in properly.

Love this take no prisoners approach. It’s the way to go for single women. Make it work for you.

It’s the only way to manage fab, in my view. And I am a prolific blocker too- if I’m not interested based on a message or or profile, I block. Saves the whiny ‘why won’t you meet me’ messages and the abusive ones after they’re rejected.

I found myself wanting to have some ‘casual sex’, in reality just some NSA FwB type set up. But as a teacher it is impossible to use the apps without the risk of students finding out and the more obvious sex based ones are potentially career ending.

i joined lots of activities. The running club proved effective, as I started training with a lovely young man who was happy to help scratch the itch on a semi regular basis