Masturbate more frequently for a healthy relationship?

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Talking to my partner the other day we have realised she last masturbated 18 months ago, and me over 2 months ago, we just rely on sex but sometimes that can be 3-4 days in a row, sometimes weeks apart.

We are still in our 30s so this seems below average, I think we should actually try/focus on masturbating much much more like daily or at least 2/3 times weekly.

Could this improve our health by way of stress release, tension release, keeping the organs all working so to speak, and actually make us want to be more sexual with each other?

Or could we actually reduce desire for each other by constantly ‘releasing’ tension and becoming used to quickly satisfying ourselves as routine which then means we are less needy for sex, and possibly quicker/poorer/less loving.

Really interested in other options and thoughts.

I think it’s perfectly healthy and normal to masturbate on both sides but maybe it’s finding that balance of saving yourselves for each other when you get the chance and then in the meantime when you know there’s no chance of getting time together then do whatever you need to do

well work a tug a day to keep the equipment in good working order.

Personally, I find the more sexual activity I have, whether solo or with someone else, the more I want.

I am much more relaxed after an orgasm and feel a lot of tension release. I usually masturbate daily and have for a long time as I just enjoy it. My husband says I'm much less grumpy after I have had an orgasm!

Regardless of who or what is going on in my life, l’m very much a “daily girl”. It helps keep me relaxed, focused and fairly stress free; little effort, big rewards. I couldn’t have 1:1sex with that level of frequency though, that would require too much exertion.

Use it or lose it

I agree with PPs, for me it’s a use it or lose it situation. Essentially given my age (menopausal) I need to keep blood flowing and maintain some semblance of a libido as it can just switch off if I don’t.

DP is much less fussed, he never does it himself, only 2-3 times a week with me. I love the idea of him feeling horny enough to touch himself but he just doesn’t seem bothered. I’m sure it helps with stress, sleep and general mood, but he’s on ADs so libido is a bit lower anyway.