How can I rebuild intimacy with my husband during menopause?

[CoffeeRevelsfan]

I’m early 40s and have been with my DH for 16yrs. I have an young adult DC and a late teen DC who both live with us, the oldest has their partner to stay 4 or 5 nights per week.

I have completely lost my libido and have very little desire to have sex. This has an impact on my relationship, although DH has been very understanding which i truly appreciate. We previously enjoyed a fulfilling and enjoyable sex life, but now that I’m older and have older DC, I just feel so awkward about having sex whilst they are in the house. We live rurally so youngest DC is in the house most evenings/nights. I am also in chemical menopause whilst awaiting a hysterectomy due to lots of gynae issues, which doesn’t make me feel very attractive or sexy!

how do I overcome this and take steps to rebuild intimacy with DH? I really do want to feel close to my DH again, but it’s been so long now that I don’t know where to start!

(M)
Keep the small stuff alive; the hugs, the cuddles the little “I love you” comments when you feel the moment is right ….. and if you can afford it, or have somewhere you two can take yourselves off too, go release yourself with him occasionally…..you two obviously love each other….as Nike would say “just do it!”

Add a date night to you calender, get out of the house together, book a hotel occasionally, have your kids out of the house at the same time.

If you don’t already , sleep naked lots of naked cuddles stroking and touching
this maybe a little frustrating for your husband as he will not doubt be very aroused, seeing how aroused you are making him and his obvious desire may well trigger something in you , I would probably avoid penatration initially allowing this to build you will gain confidence he will need to be patient I also think communication hearing from your wife she really wants to rekindle your physical relationship will make him want to pleasure you ,

Just found out that we have the house to ourselves this evening, so I’m going for it! I’ve planted the seed with DH so he’s walking round with a smile on his face. I’m going to put a little extra makeup on later and wear a nice lingerie set for a confidence boost.

I'm not sure if this will be too late for today but have a look at Jenny Keane's website. It's called Oh Moment and she does some great online workshops that you pay for & can watch at any time.

There's one called Keeping the Spark Alive (I think) and most people watch it with their DH. Some say they don't get to finish watching it as they are too busy trying out the things she recommends! She gets great reviews from women & men - well worth a look, even if you can't tonight, as you're on a strict timeline and need to make the most of the opportunity.

Enjoy having the house to yourself @CoffeeRevelsfan