Hi all
Does anyone else have a husband/partner who has completely different sexual needs to them?
My husband is very vanilla. Like, two positions, does the same thing every time, not interested in spicing it up or doing new things.
I on the other hand, really want to explore my submissive side. I wanna try the works - flogging, paddles, cuffs, bondage, clamps, toys, degradation and praise - list not exhaustive.
Ive tried gently broaching the idea of trying some of the more gentler activities - asked for choking, spanking, biting, tieing my arms behind my back, but he doesn't have any interest in any of it. Tried asking him to pick out lingerie for me to wear that he likes to see if that could get him interested in something new but nope. I told him I wanted a butt plug and he looked at me like I had two heads, and tbh that made me feel a bit shit.
Its really kind of frustrating because the sec just doesn't do it for me and hes not willing to meet me somewhere in the middle and try some things out.
I'm not really sure what to do about it, I cant even really have toys because I think they make him feel insecure.
Any advice please? X