Like a fair few on here sex with my wife has been very up and down over the years. Last few years probably more downs and averaging once a month/ six weeks compared to multiple times a week within the first few years. We’ve had a few conversations about it and both being honest and we’ve tried scheduling when both working from home and kids being at school. Anyway, a few months ago the conversation came up again as I sometimes feel that I can be led on and it started to take its toll. Anyway, wife suggested that if it’s not often enough then maybe we stay together but I just find someone else to sleep with and have an arrangement with them but she wouldn’t want to know anything about, we spoke about it and I said no (I knew she wouldn’t be on board with it and she just said it) obviously I thought about it and how it would work and maybe might be good but didn’t do anything about it. Since that conversation everything has changed and sex is frequent, the blowjobs are mind blowing and doing stuff and techniques that she probably hasn’t done in over 10 years, even the nice underwear has started coming out again opposed to the faded baggy ones she would normally wear. It’s not a question or asking for advice but sometimes things can change (hopefully it continues)