Sex after menopause advice please on vaginal eastrogen

[helenaxxx]

I’m 55 and just had sex with my new boyfriend after 5 years of no sex. Last time I was still having periods. Just very concerned about my vagina coping with all the sex that goes on at the start of a new relationship, New boyfriend loves having sex.

I didn’t use any lubricant or moisturiser and am not on any HRT. I decided to give it a try without any assistance. Sex was fine, and I was wet enough just, but there was a small amount of blood and so I must have had a small tear. I’m a little bit sore but there is no more bleeding, so minor.

i didn’t experience the same satisfaction that I used to, but was enjoyable. Will definitely need to use lubricant for prolonged sex. He’s the same age as me and likes long sessions in bed. I loved this years ago when my vaginal was up to it,

im wondering if I should take vaginal eastrogen and what experience other women have had ?
Will this make it easier for my vagina to cope with lots of sex? Will it make sex more pleasurable and enjoyable ? Have people had side effects? Is a vaginal moisturiser just as good ?

Ive got a week before we try again and ive got the vaginal eastrogen so I could start it.

Around a month ago I experienced an itchy dry vagina for the first time. Now I feel well lubricated because im spending more time with the new man.

has anyone else had experience they can share on this, thanks

yes to vagjnal oestrogen - ideally you should have been using it for regularly sex or not, but definitely start now. They usually advise a loading dose where you use it every day for a month and then twice a week. If you have the high strength stuff it’s fine to use around sex bit the low strength stuff is a bit messy as you need more of it. I would do that and use some lube made for women, there’s one called Yes. make sure you put the oestrogen inside as well as outside including the clitoris and perineum. It’s effects include decreased chance of anal cancer.
Other things that may help are making sure you are turned on enough before penetration and being honest if it’s too much (there are other ways to make a make a man come of course!)

enjoy

PS you could also consider regular HRT as this can help as well. I have had no side effects from the vaginal oestrogen. Menopause can dull orgasm but HRT can help. Anecdotally from friends it seems a combination of HRT and continued activity (alone or with a partner, either keep blood flow regularly going to the vagina and clitoris in particular), can help. Use it or lose it!

Gina is your friend. Available from the pharmacist without prescription, but you need to answer a few questions on a questionnaire before they’ll sell it to you.

As you put it inside you, don’t risk any on line sales which are cheaper, unless you are certain they are not fake.

im 48 so a little bit younger. still lubricate enough for none painful penetration. but my sexual response to touch is way way less than it used to be and I find it incredibly difficult to orgasm. I too am in quite a new relationship of about 6 months. I've not experienced that wanting to rip his clothes of desire that I would have done just a few years ago which I find quite sad as I do massively fancy him. It's like im becoming dead from the waist down. my head wants sex and to feel aroused but my body just doesn't respond anymore. I had amazing levels of arousal and orgasms in my younger days and I want those feelings back. peri meno and meno is shit for women.

If you can afford it there is a private HRT doctor in London Google Dr Rebecca Gibbs she is known as the menopause queen it’s approximately £350 one off visit she will get you the right HRT combo it’s an absolute game changer .
we would also recommend the natural love company for lube especially there arousal serum this applied to your clit will transform your love making