A question about mutual masturbation

[henriettaflora]

I've been wanting to try mutual masturbation with my DH. I've never done it before with him. I wanted to ask, does it just mean masturbating next to each other, actually masturbating each other or can it include both? I imagine it's probably a vanilla thing for a lot of people, but I'm a bit shy with talking about sex-related stuff. I find the thought of doing it to be quite a turn-on. I'm trying to think of how best to bring up the idea of it.

It can be whatever you want it to be, it can be what you describe or one of you plays while the other watches. Talk to each other, go for it and enjoy

I'd echo what @Baggiesfan said above - I don't think there are strict rules around it, it can be whatever you two find enjoyable. Have a conversation, see what he thinks, and have fun together..

Do you talk about masturbation with him at all? If getting the conversation started feels awkward, you can start off with asking him to show you how he touches himself next time you're getting intimate. Make it clear you enjoy watching/ he turns you on and then start touching yourself. Or tell him you had a dream about him catching you masturbating (or vice versa). If your self pleasure usually involves toys be aware that some men can see this as a bit of a threat so start with just hands (toys can come later!).

No rules. Just enjoy it. Try it on the phone if you're ever apart. It's really hot!!

This is one of our favourite things to do. Masturbating together is so hot both in terms of watching your partner and them watching you back.

Enjoy.

For me it’s a big turn on to watch my wife and masturbate together.
it’s normal, just ask him.
you will find he will probably have the same outlook.

It's fun; Bi women do it quite often.😏

You can learn so much from watching your partner pleasuring themselves .