Dirty talk

[Kinkygal50]

Looking for tips on dirty talk please!

Actions speak louder than words haha. I’d just go with how you feel, what you want and what you hope for

I expect you'll get a few DMs containing a fair bit of that now....

Tell him/her what you want to do to him/her. Be descriptive and intentional but don’t overthink it, it’s supposed to be fun.

Just be uninhibited, be yourself and go for it.

Just go for it and you'll probably get a favourable reaction..

Not necessarily- I didn’t 😂. My DH would rather I kept quiet, unfortunately!

Say what you'd like to do for him or what you'd like him to do for you. Use words that you wouldn't ordinarily use. And do it when you are really aroused and therefore less inhibited.

Oh OK - each to their own I guess. I do enjoy it.

I did a workshop on dirty talk a few years ago and still have my notes…

Prep - how do they want themselves / their genitalia to be referred to? Ask!

Dirty talk without declaration - just because you say it, doesn't mean you are intending to do it, can just be fantasy.

Keep it open - "What if I...?", "Maybe I'll do..,"

Be non-specific so your person can write their own adventure - "I'm going to run my tongue where you want it most"

Choices - "do you want me to do X or Y?"

Questions -"tell me about a time when you.... how did it feel?"

Recount a scene - "remember when we..,?"

Talk about what you know / your desires - "I'd like to do XYZ to you"

Pauses - don't fill the silence - build anticipation

Noises - little purrs, sighs, moans, laughter (fun!)

Tone of voice- don't have to whisper but speak calmly and with conviction

Listen to erotica - get ideas!

Create your own audio erotica - listen back to it

Talk to yourself - practice - you know what arouses you!

Hope that gives you some tips and ideas 😁

Thanks for that 😃

If you need some more tips watch the Extras episode with Kate Winslet!

....and if you want some practice.... 😉

My partner was downstairs last night and i had just showered. I thought I’d text him a little saucy message to get him to come up- god I realised how bad I am at sexting! It’s something we never done lol.

What did you send him?

Sent him a one view picture on WhatsApp of me naked asking ‘do you want this?’…I then just heard the doors closing and him coming upstairs 🤣 I sat for ages trying to think what to send.

Excellent - what did he say and do?

You can guess what we done 🤭😂

Lol you tease - thought you would share😉. Good for you and maybe this will start something new for the both of you?

We were watching a Jane Austen film and he started talking about the characters. Saying things like: How easy it would be to undo his breeches with those buttons ready at hand. She could get her hand in easily. The idea of the sisters sharing a bed and huddled together because it was cold set him right off about 'helping' them.
Later I joined in with details about under clothing. A pleasant early night😉

In the moment I can dirty talk- telling what I want to do to him/ hat I want him to do to me. But texting I have too much time to think about it lol

Check out the 27 Jan episode of the Sex With Emily podcast.

Don't overthink it - just write what you feel is nice at that moment. You can say things you would find awkward to bring up without context .Communication through sexting can be easier as it's more detached and not as immediate - but you do need to watch out for miss interpretation of meaning in sexting.