How common is it to still be sexually active after 60?

[Olderpleasures]

I never thought I would be asking about this on MN, but I am at a stage of my life where I feel more comfortable talking about certain subjects. Sex is among them. I'm 63 and still having sex on a regular basis and enjoying it. I would say I am enjoying it more than at any point since I was in my 30s. I got divorced in my late 50 after being a sexless marriage with ex-DH. I have since dated a few men, some younger and some around my age. I am currently in a casual sexual relationship with a man in his late 30s. I would describe us as being friends with benefits. He is fabulous in bed and prioritizes my pleasure (and my orgasm) over his. We typically meet up twice a week for sex. It lasts for a long time, and if we sleep together overnight there will often be a second round the next morning. I am on a combination of HRT and testosterone gel which helps to keep my libido high. I also still masturbate regularly, though I prefer sex.

I have an adult DD who I think would be shocked to know I am still having sex. I also get comments from people close to me saying I look like I have a glow. I don't do anything special to look that way. I just exercise, try to eat healthy and have sex as often as I can. I do find that I feel great for several hours after having sex or having an orgasm, and I suspect that contributes to the "glow" which people have commented about. Are any other women still enjoying sex later in life, especially after 60? I have been wondering if I'm the oldest Mumsnetter who is still having sex. I hope I'm not but if I am, so be it.

Relatively common. 60 isn't that old these days. Back in our parents day, I suspect it was and they probably weren't as sexually active as modern people.

No idea, but Mrs hoopyvest and I both are.

I would hope you are far from the oldest as I think it's normal to carry on having sex if the desires are still there. I hope I mange to carry on into very old age!
How did you meet your young lover? He sounds very good.

I bet our parents did it just as much as the current generation does… They obviously just never boasted about it to us!

Quite possibly. But divorce was less common then and people often toughed out sexless marriages; if that's what they became.

I think now the expectation in life is generally higher and people want to remain sexually active well into their 60s and beyond. Fair play to them.

I have a Fwb who's 45 and I'm 62, I not sure how this happened but I'm really enjoying it to say least 😊

I imagine it is very common and we enjoy it without advertising it on the social media interwebby thingy.

OP I’m quite envious! Your sex life sounds fabulous. I’m two years post-divorce and at 63 am starting to think I’d like to start dipping my toe into the dating world. However since having breast cancer, albeit it low-grade, a couple of years ago I’ve been advised not to go back onto HRT. My libido is non-existent and I don’t like the thought of never having sex again. How easy was it to be prescribed testosterone? Are you in the UK? In any case, I wish you the very best!

I’ll be 61 in May. My partner is 44. We have sex about 8 times a week. Been together for three years.

Good for you
I'm early 40s and had a 27 year old saying he would love to cum on my tits
Taking it as a compliment

It is not uncommon for people over 60/70 to have sex. Your sex life sounds great and what you do have nothing to do with anyone else. Enjoy.

Definitely worse things to do on a Sunday morning 😁

Enjoy!

How common? I bloody hope it's de rigueur!

My mum is 66 and regularly has casual sex! We are a very open family and often there is tmi! She’s on the dating apps and won’t say no to sex on a first or second date! Don’t be embarrassed by it, own it!

I can only assume yes based on the fact that in my late 20s a 60yo women helped me end a year long dry spell. We remained friends for many years after

My Mum also was quite sexually active in her 50s and 60s. She was single by then and she had a bit of a sexual renaissance. She had a string of liaisons; nothing too deep but it made her very happy in her middling years.

So glad you posted this. I’m 53 (female) and left a long, sexless marriage in 2020 (it was me who made it sexless as I just wasn’t attracted to him and he was 💩 at it tbh). I had been such a goody two shoes when I was younger, I had nothing to compare him to. After a few years of crazy hormones and a few ‘encounters’ with other men, I realised I had missed out. I, stupidly got involved with a married man and this has been going on for years but it’s very obvious his guilt is kicking in (and, tbh, it’s no good for anyone although I’m very fond of him and he’s given me so much passion - that I have missed). I keep thinking I’m too old to find anyone now. Really have missed out with 10 years of my marriage being completely sexless - I’m very passionate but only with the right man.

Glad I’m not too old!!

Funny, one of my ex-colleagues constantly drops hints he’d be up for it. He said I have the best cleavage he’s ever seen 😂! He’s 40! And, married! I went to the wedding 😬. He’s messaged me this morning - still stays in touch and tries to get a photo!!

My boss (61) is happily shagging a 40-something woman at work. He divorced his wife! She hasn’t ended her marriage but her husband is a bit of a twat by all accounts (two kids in the house). They are open about their relationship now.

You still have a lot of time - just get out there and you will meet someone or at least have fun trying. And I too am a sucker for a killer cleavage..

If 53 is too old, I'm fu...
Oh never mind.

Photo of what 🤔🤣

65 isn't old. I would be devastated if I thought most people weren't still having regular sex then and for decades after.

My assets! No way though!