How common is it to still be sexually active after 60?

[Olderpleasures]

I never thought I would be asking about this on MN, but I am at a stage of my life where I feel more comfortable talking about certain subjects. Sex is among them. I'm 63 and still having sex on a regular basis and enjoying it. I would say I am enjoying it more than at any point since I was in my 30s. I got divorced in my late 50 after being a sexless marriage with ex-DH. I have since dated a few men, some younger and some around my age. I am currently in a casual sexual relationship with a man in his late 30s. I would describe us as being friends with benefits. He is fabulous in bed and prioritizes my pleasure (and my orgasm) over his. We typically meet up twice a week for sex. It lasts for a long time, and if we sleep together overnight there will often be a second round the next morning. I am on a combination of HRT and testosterone gel which helps to keep my libido high. I also still masturbate regularly, though I prefer sex.

I have an adult DD who I think would be shocked to know I am still having sex. I also get comments from people close to me saying I look like I have a glow. I don't do anything special to look that way. I just exercise, try to eat healthy and have sex as often as I can. I do find that I feel great for several hours after having sex or having an orgasm, and I suspect that contributes to the "glow" which people have commented about. Are any other women still enjoying sex later in life, especially after 60? I have been wondering if I'm the oldest Mumsnetter who is still having sex. I hope I'm not but if I am, so be it.

You could send something very tasteful?

I did but he wants more than that.

Send something more tasteful?
(Sorry. I'll get my coat.)

I've had a different lover every year since I was 17 and I'm now significantly north of 60 :)

Wow! Really? What’s your secret? Where do you find them?

Winter wonder land :) LOL

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I had offers too, but the worry of what others would say put me off from going through. I have regularly regretted it.

Now I’m a couple of decades older, single and no longer worried about others opinions, I can definitely see myself correcting that should the right opportunity arise.

That's excellent and hopefully you will enjoy new adventures.

Lol, you coild always send a testeful trase 🤣

Heck, the idea that sex might stop at 60!

Maybe that's based on the assumption that most people had regular sex most of their adult lives, so may be getting bored of it by their 60s?

In my case (M, 60) I had a long and difficult marriage without much intimacy. So everything is still working well and feels rather under-used. Like an Aston Martin in the garage with low mileage on the clock (I like to think 😁).

But seriously, I do feel I missed out. So hoping my 60s is a chance to enjoy things other people did at an earlier stage of life...

M61. Absolutely sex goes on after 60, just not as regularly as before DWs menopause.
The little blue pill occasionally adds to the occasion too.

I’ve a widowed friend in her later 60s. She says she would never live with anyone again, but she is regularly sleeping with 2 lovers (not on the same occasion!) one in their early 50s and one in their late 60s.

I am a widow over 3 years ago. I’m now 63 and recently met a very nice 67 year old we see each other every few days and have sex at least 2 or 3 times over a couple of days.
I am thoroughly enjoying it,
Maybe it’s a case of we meet up and do fun things together and no hang ups about who does the pots or puts the rubbish out.
When I’m at his he cooks, makes the tea etc
When at mine I do the food and drinks so no resentment.
We both organise and plan nice things to do, both take turns driving and paying for stuff.
We are both happy with the situation.

That sounds like a nice arrangement. Enjoy!

I hope there is plenty of sex over 60, I’m 56 and out of a long and mostly sexless relationship- and have met someone new ( who was in the same position) same age and we both rediscovered our sex lives

Sounds like a perfect arrangement

Sexually active with a male 60+ ?

quality over quantity

Age related ED most often plays it's part , that's life sadly

Exactly. I went through a period of ED for quite a while and then when that resolved itself, had a period of premature ejaculation. It's middle age. I'm mid 50s and I presume it won't get much better beyond 60. I'm grateful that I'm still active sexually though.

Remember there is more to sex than penetration.

My partner is 66. He has absolutely no problems with ED - quite the opposite. No need for the little blue pill either. We’re both widowed so both had longish dry spells before we met. Lack of libido does not feature for either of us and I suspect ‘widows fire’ is at play here

We’re both early 60s and no ED issues here or need for pills. Probably average once a week.

That’s a bit like saying a woman over 60 is not going to active due to age related virginal dryness, that’s life sadly 🤷🏻

Pills and lube can help many people

a large percentage of Men over 55 have age related ED and a pill doesn't always help.

And lots of women over 55 have a loss of libido and stop wanting sex, especially after menopause
what is the point you are trying to make here?

some people have sex over 60 and some don’t