New relationship..

[1jellybean]

I’ve been seeing a guy for a few months and tonight he’s out the blue said he wants to watch a black man have sex with me is this normal I’m abit lost for words

grab your coat

it’s a thing, it has a name not sure on why a black man though.

He said it some kind of fetish and I’ve asked him what interest him in that and he said it excites him
too see someone he wants get pleasure

youll get all kinds of responses on here @1jellybean but there’s only one thing that matters
Do you actually want this and would you want it EVER in your life if he hadn’t suggested it?

Also do you feel anything weird or uneasy about the random fetishisation of a man’s race etc?

That’s what counts. What you feel.

Run, run, run for the hills

If you're comfortable dating someone who doesn't see all races as equal ...

Wow !! He’s a cuck. If your reaction is WTF I think you know the answer.

Where to start. Coming completely out of the blue this is very odd indeed. As a fantasy it is also very problematic. It seems like he sees people as stereotypes. If he says this quite early on in a relationship who knows what other weird stuff will surface later on. I would bin now and move on.

Yuk!

Sound like voyager is his thing. Puff daddy in motion. I would decline. The end results of adding to the mix of sexual relationship is the anticipation to cheat, either on the mans side or the womans side.

Meh. So he clearly finds it exciting to watch you get fucked and orgasm. And he's using the old stereotype that black guys have big dicks. You know what? I'm sure some do, and some don't. But what he's going for is he wants you to have a sexual experience which is thrilling and a challenge for you to take, so that he can watch you have a particularly strong orgasm.

OK fine that's what he wants. Is it something you want? I mean, the fact he has an interest in watching you have sex doesn't mean he is some kind of a deviant, but is that something that would be fun or positive for you, and does it align with your goals of dating this guy? Are you looking to form a relationship with him? And would you be OK if it was a relationship where this kind of activity was something you do, as a couple?

Well.. define 'normal'. Normal, as in average? I'd assume not. Normal as in 'there is a high number of men who want this'? - I reckon not. Normal as in 'worried he's a deviant'? You won't find your answer here to that either, I think... And I am trying to avoid sounding judgemental about it, because it is so far from what my cup of tea is... I'd rather chop my on arm off than having my wife have sex with anyone else. Watching it, that would just make me want to chop my other arm off, too...
One thing I would say though, only dating for a few months to jump into this territory seems like a very steep jump to me - not sure if anyone agrees. Seems to me like some mega kink he is extremely into, so much so that it made him coin it so early on in the relationship.. Yes-yes, one could argue it's a good thing to feel so comfortable around the partner, etc... but it just seems way to extreme to me. And if it was odd enough for you to ask about it here, I am sure you know where I am coming from :)
At the end of the day, it is how @snrubb said it above - Is it something you would care to do? If yes, who cares what others think..

It’s not the cuck aspect that would worry me, it’s the race issue. Stereotyping , thinking all black me have big cocks and absolutely no need to bring race into it.

the other aspect is he probably thinks/hopes it gives him a free pass as well….