What foreplay do men really like - Men’s perspective

[NaiveMuch]

Hi,

I posted this on Dadsnet too, but thought id try here as well.
Ive been with my bf for about 6 months now. He’s amazing when it comes to sex, foreplay and satisfying me basically. However i have absolutely no clue as to how else to satisfy him during foreplay other than giving a Bj.

please please, can you guys share some ideas for foreplay that men like that i could try. Could be anything at all.

Thank you!

Just ask him!

Like women, different men like different things.

You’ll also find that most men are less interested in foreplay than women, we don’t need as much time to ‘warm up’ 😂

From my POV, my favourite foreplay is generally giving foreplay to my partner. There’s sometimes a little bottom play prior ( fingers etc) but generally speaking we add the foreplay during sex so we mix it up so I I guess it’s more like midplay haha.

But seriously, just ask him, or, if you don’t feel comfortable, download some sex couples apps and use them to get an idea of what works for him and what doesn’t.

Things that my OH enjoys (I guess as foreplay):

me being very specific/sexual about what I need (and demonstrating)
kissing obviously
playing with my boobs (also obviously!)
being handcuffed and teased
coconut oil to make him tasty and ready for action
remember a BJ can include licking and kissing etc too plus balls and bum
he loves me using my hands on him
he also loves 69 and seeing and tasting me
watching me then joining in

Oh yes I agree with this too. His foreplay is often giving me foreplay. Win win 😂

One more thought. He loves a sexy message or photo earlier in the day to say what I’m looking forward to. Does that count as foreplay?

I’m following for more ideas now!

Slow and sensual is what this guy likes! Lots of kissing and stroking. Soft lights and nice lingerie always makes things special too.

But then, I'm just a romantic old git. Best to ask your bloke what does it for him I think!

The best foreplay for me is my partner actively wanting sex and trying to find what works for me. It's probably more psychological than you'd expect, compared to the caveman clichés.

Same for me. My foreplay is generally giving oral, playing with toys, anything thats gets the woman to an orgasm or two before sex.

I tend to prefer delaying me getting there as I am very much one and done (although if I am done first, I still make sure she finishes too after).

It's true you should ask him. But for various reasons he might not say. Good to get ideas and try them out, bearing in mind that at least some won't hit the mark and you mustn't mind that.

I like DW dressing to make me look at her, flaunting her body, being assertive and confident about me looking at her. That could be lingerie in the bedroom but even gym gear around the house charges me up, and that's a kind of foreplay too I think.

Gymbunny's suggestions would all work for me.

Bring a mate…

Thank you so much for all the responses. Read them all, he does Really say what he likes specifically. He’s not complaining about what we currently do, so thats good. Just like someone says he gets pleasure from giving so….it just would be nice to be able to give him a bit of attention then he currently gets

I’m with you OP. Obviously I like him giving me pleasure but I also enjoying giving him pleasure too. I’d hate for it ALL to be about me

Every man is different to what they like and what there interested in

Some of my ideas/likes

1. I love going down on a woman, to see feel and taste the pleasure along with the sound of pleasure that I'm helping create major turn on for me. my fav
2. lingerie of all types, admire the beauty of a woman showing sexy off lol
3. Teasing picture, just to tease and set a tone not nude
4. some sexting to get the imagination going and to tease the mind
5. To watch my women play solo in POV
6. To use toys on her
7. Kiss, little odd bite around the body
8. Using fingers with different movements and motion
9. Blindfolding and tying of the hands to tease the mind and body without penetrating, so the complete trust, mystery of whats going to happen and it heightens the turn on process more

10. A nice full body massage with oils, that gets a bit hot and sexy 11. Now and then the odd spontaneous kiss and sexy group, maybe a push up against the wall moment whilst savouring a kiss to set the mind off to want more 12. Dress up 13. roleplaying IRL and on public

No order just some ideas and things I like

Lingerie including stockings and suspenders (left on while DTD), having her rub her boobs all down me from my mouth to my dick then giving a BJ. Plenty of eye contact. Her being vocal about what she wants from me.

Just a few...

Oh forgot

Using some foods lol
I.e like eating ice cream and recieving or giving oral so that cold sensation then getting warmer

Another talking dirty with some suggestions or physical guidance during foreplay

Ask 100 men and you get 100 different answers

personally I love it when my GF cups my balls or runs her hands up and down my back , but only your bf will really know what he likes

Nice to have ideas though? He might not know he likes something unless she tries it!

And I’m sure it’s same for women, ask 100 different women- get 100 different answers

Definitely- I love new ideas to try though. Do you mean you don’t? I especially love when OH tries something new with me (although it’s normally from porn 😂)

DP loves skin to skin contact. As much as he can get. Add in a pressure cuddle and he's very happy. He really enjoys me pushing his chest hard, particularly around his nipples.

He's the first man I've been with that enjoys this, so not sure how common it is.

Best foreplay for a lot of men is knowing that you desire him, not just that you want to please him :)

Prostate massage (internally) i love but if she goes anywhere near my anus im ready to shoot in seconds...the nerve endings down there tip me over the edge in no time when touched.

He likes cuddling and kissing naked in bed but other than that he likes to do things to me and see me aroused. So it's really him doing things to me that gets him going. He enjoys a blowjob and handjob but I only do those to completion if intercourse isn't going to happen.

Definitely slow and sensual for this man. It's something we save for special occasions such as birthdays or Valentine's.

I like to lie face down while she slowly strokes me or or rubs oil into me all over - neck and shoulders, back, legs, and then backside. She tells me to turn over and it's neck and shoulders again, tummy and legs. Then she runs her fingers through my pubes, plays with my balls and licks my penis all over. Finally she either masturbates in front of me and then gives me a BJ, or goes straight to a BJ. Either way I love it (and do similar for her).

Runs her fingers through my pubes

And they say romance is dead!

This sounds like an erotic novel!

Bet the blokes on here are having a field day, being encouraged to openly talk about (how good) their sex life! 😂