I always thought I would never do these things but then suddenly get the urge out of nowhere

[anon1637]

Through my teenage years, I never wanted to give a blowjob, it seemed like a gross act, I didn't understand why other girls did it, I assumed they just wanted guys to like them for it. A boyfriend convinced me to try it once but I hated it and swore I'd never do it again. Not only blowjobs but other degrading things like getting on my knees, bending over, anal. I didn't understand why other girls did these things.

In my 20s after I started seeing a new guy, suddenly one day when I'm at work thinking about him the thought of giving him a blowjob enters my head. I shrugged it off and carried on with work but it kept happening and the idea didn't seem so bad anymore. By the time I saw him next, it had turned into a fully fledged urge. I did it, loved it and haven't looked back. The same happened with some other things.

Has anyone else experienced this? What's going on here? I could understand if it was at puberty age or something but I'm mid 20s. Do people get urges out of nowhere throughout their lives?

@StarlightLady im assuming your previous 69 experiences have been disappointing? You say you clench your teeth at the point of climax?? Unhealthy why you feel this way?✊🏿

@StarlightLady don’t do 69. I’m on the short side so 69 is difficult. My partner knows what I like and by using his tongue and fingers he is capable of giving me multiple orgasms which make me cry out.

Even more unhealthy for the recipient I would think...

That was my exact point! 😫

😂😂

I love 69 and would do it all day if I could - the problem is for me it’s just too good and never lasts long. No teeth clenching for me thankfully, because I would hate to have to miss out.

Being a few (but not so many) years behind you, and struggling with the likelihood that I might never wake up next to (or fall asleep under) someone else ever again, this warns my redacted heart and fills me with a little hope. ❤️

@mnmnddddd All I can say is keep going, there is somebody out there who you will meet a like me regain your sexual requirements. Thanks for your response.

You come across as so warm and… sexual (!)… you’ll definitely meet someone in time!

I was pondering about the opinion that bj are degrading earlier. After a rather nice ‘live experiment’ 😂

I think I’d actually say I feel quite powerful (not necessarily dominant but I’m not into BDSM). It’s really thrilling being in control of someone’s pleasure like that. Especially when it’s so gratefully and enthusiastically received.

I can understand that face fucking is degrading. But I think that’s the point really?

The latter is a totally different ball game (pun intended) and certainly not for me. I would say be passive and certainly no thrusting. The object of the exercise is not to cause someone to gag or choke.

Thank you for all your comments and encouragement. When I think back I realise what a vanilla sex life I had. if only I had been more adventurous.

It's never too late to be what you might have been.