Help a gal orgasm!

[ThisWorthyReader]

I’ll get straight to the point.
I don’t know what my issue is but I just can’t seem to ‘let go’.
I get really in the mood and then find myself getting close and then my whole body tenses up/ I essentially stop myself from fully having an orgasm.
I don’t think I’ve ever cummed from sex or masturbation both alone and with my partner. I get so frustrated and upset with myself but I just don’t know what can help/ what to do!!

Any advice would be wonderful x

You want tension to be building up down there. The orgasm is the release of the tension. When you think it's too much, you've just got to keep going.

Thank you

Tbh I find a vibrator to be more likely to give me an O.
Personally a rabbit one produces "the best results" so to speak, but different ones work for different women.
But I'm going to say something that many women will disagree with and call me a "size queen" over, but for me the only men who've given me Os have been the biggest ones. Whether it's coincidence or luck or genuinely the size, it's definitely been that way for me

You need to get out of your head. No overthinking. Or see a therapist to unlock the subconscious block.
Its about having tension but also relaxing into the sensations.

Doxy wand

You're welcome

I concur only I’d go mains powered Magic Wand. Best £60 (at the time) I ever spent.

I've got the Love Honey one and the Doxy one
both mains powered. Doxy beats the Love Honey one hands down ( in my opinion).
The material feels better, there's no ridge like there is on the Love Honey one and it has higher power. I have a drawer full of sex toys but the Doxy one is the only one I use now.

Thank you for your responses, I appreciate them all x

I didn’t even know this was a thing?! Seeing a therapist about it

all the way. you can't get that power from batteries.

I'm on my 3rd, as the motors do eventually go 😳.

Oh yes. It could be a psychological block from years ago. Something said in childhood, in a relationship or something read.

Are you engaging in foreplay? I find it a lot easier to cum from clitoral stimulation or fingering but rarely from vanilla sex, so my husband will usually sort me out first then go in for his.

Which doxy wand? Seem to be a few versions?

Mine is the original.

I had no idea there were different versions of it! Worth looking into? I have the original..

Thanks, do you know how to find a therapist to help with this?

Yes we do usually do foreplay beforehand, I find it really turns me on when we are both touching each other and I can feel and hear him enjoying himself.

I have had the original, then when my last one broke hubby treated me to the die cast version for my birthday. It's gorgeous, but exactly same performance no different, so probavly bit worth the money.

There is a new smaller version thats not as intense but you can swap the head for accessories, not tries it yet but I'm curious.

@daphney

Dont want to derail the thread into a wand apreciation thread but intreting to hear about the Doxy. Regarding varing up your Doxy, Godemiche sell silicone wand covers for both Doxy and Hitachi magic wands which look much nicer than the one I bought off Love Honey. They also do an "interesting" wand mount.

We have the Liberator axis wand mount which we have had fun with although they also now make a few different ones (we have had ours a while)

@ThisWorthyReader

Nothing wrong with good professional threapy of any kind but I would certainly invest in a good quality wand as mentioned on here before you go for therapy .

Another good investment would be OMGYES if you have not already looked at it may give you ideas on what you might like and lastly if you have time read or listen too Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski her words may help you get out of your own head.

Now you've just sent me down a rabbit hole

I’m the same.

Been seeing someone for a few months and I feel so comfortable with him, we communicate really well, he’s patient and respectful but I just can’t get out of my head. I can very occasionally orgasm by myself but it doesn’t happen often.

So give a wand a go and if not some sort of therapy?!

Exploring was what did it for me