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GarrynotsoGorilla · 04/05/2025 20:54

@Roxanne89 short answer yes. He probably found going down on you a huge turn on and after a while of not being intimate came while he was enjoying your orgasm. Was this just now? Do you plan to help in the morning or did you? 🤪

Gymbunny2025 · 04/05/2025 22:37

I’d find that off putting!

itsnotalwaysthateasy · 04/05/2025 23:09

Id find that kind sweet.

littlepinkbow · 05/05/2025 07:05

Gymbunny2025 · 04/05/2025 22:37

I’d find that off putting!

Why?!!

I think it’s endearing, and as long as he can control himself in the future a little more I don’t think it’s a problem at all.

if he hadn’t been sexually active for a while it’s no wonder he blew his load early, although I’d maybe be a bit put out for him not wanting round 2!

GigiAnnna · 05/05/2025 07:50

If he was sticky and there was " evidence" then he did. If there hadn't have been, I'd have assumed he was avoiding something for whatever reason. Hopefully it was a one off caused by his excitement to a new partner and not because he's got a premature ejaculation problem.

Gymbunny2025 · 05/05/2025 08:06

littlepinkbow · 05/05/2025 07:05

Why?!!

I think it’s endearing, and as long as he can control himself in the future a little more I don’t think it’s a problem at all.

if he hadn’t been sexually active for a while it’s no wonder he blew his load early, although I’d maybe be a bit put out for him not wanting round 2!

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What kind of grown man cums when he’s fully clothed like that?! Then doesn’t say anything or clean it up. And can’t go again until the morning?!

the whole thing would give me the ick!

jubs15 · 05/05/2025 08:33

Some men produce pre-cum, which will also be sticky. The fact he didn't want you to do anything to him would suggest he may well have cum, but it isn't always the case. I once dated someone who produced a LOT of pre-cum and there's been another couple who produced a little, so it definitely is a thing.

MsDDxx · 05/05/2025 11:06

Gymbunny2025 · 04/05/2025 22:37

I’d find that off putting!

I’d find it a turn on that someone was that excited by me 🤷‍♀️

BeEagerTurtle · 05/05/2025 12:31

Roxanne89 · 04/05/2025 20:50

Last night I was intimate for the first time with a newish partner. I was his first relationship for a few years and he was my first in 5 years.
We were kissing on his bed (fully clothes), then he was touching me down there and asked if he could go down on me. I said yes and really enjoyed it, I was louder than I'd ever been (wasn't expecting it to be so good and it had been a while) and I came quickly. We then kissed some more and I went to touch him down there (he was still fully clothed), I found it very sticky and "messy" (sorry not sure how best to explain!). He was also soft. I asked if he'd like me to make him cum and he said in the morning. Does it sound like he'd already cum?maybe when going down on me?

So you came quickly and so did he , what’s the issue?

GarrynotsoGorilla · 05/05/2025 13:03

@MsDDxx added advantage that the guy will last longer second time!

GigiAnnna · 05/05/2025 13:22

BeEagerTurtle · 05/05/2025 12:31

So you came quickly and so did he , what’s the issue?

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It's a disappointment if you're looking forward to a shag.

Gymbunny2025 · 05/05/2025 13:39

GarrynotsoGorilla · 05/05/2025 13:03

@MsDDxx added advantage that the guy will last longer second time!

As long as she doesn’t mind waiting until the next morning!

OP how did that go?

GarrynotsoGorilla · 05/05/2025 13:40

@Gymbunny2025 admittedly when I was younger my recovery was a lot quicker, but surely 20 -30 mins and he would be good to go again? Didn't have to wait till morning. Second time always feels much better, and the 3rd and 4th :)

Gymbunny2025 · 05/05/2025 13:41

But the OP said he’d told her to wait until the morning?

GarrynotsoGorilla · 05/05/2025 15:14

@Gymbunny2025 That's just lack of effort!

Gymbunny2025 · 05/05/2025 15:16

I bet he was a flop then too 😂

MsDDxx · 05/05/2025 15:40

GarrynotsoGorilla · 05/05/2025 13:03

@MsDDxx added advantage that the guy will last longer second time!

I don’t mind a guy coming fast - I do too sometimes; there’s nothing wrong with being overexcited in the initial stages (and beyond, it shows the sex is good!). As you say, you can always go a second time.

MsDDxx · 05/05/2025 15:41

GarrynotsoGorilla · 05/05/2025 15:14

@Gymbunny2025 That's just lack of effort!

Yeah this was a bit odd. You would have thought he’d be keen to recover and then go again.

GarrynotsoGorilla · 05/05/2025 18:49

@MsDDxx Sometimes it is really a turn on when you can make a woman orgasm really fast, then other times it is good to edge for as long as possible to make it more intense, I find cumming the second time really powerful as a guy.

Gymbunny2025 · 05/05/2025 18:51

GarrynotsoGorilla · 05/05/2025 18:49

@MsDDxx Sometimes it is really a turn on when you can make a woman orgasm really fast, then other times it is good to edge for as long as possible to make it more intense, I find cumming the second time really powerful as a guy.

Do you mean it would make you cum unintentionally in your pants? Without touching yourself?

BeEagerTurtle · 05/05/2025 19:24

GigiAnnna · 05/05/2025 13:22

It's a disappointment if you're looking forward to a shag.

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Maybe he didn’t want one 🤷🏻

TheDeftSwan · 05/05/2025 19:44

Gymbunny2025 · 05/05/2025 08:06

What kind of grown man cums when he’s fully clothed like that?! Then doesn’t say anything or clean it up. And can’t go again until the morning?!

the whole thing would give me the ick!

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What an understanding woman. Some say all guys are wannabe porn addicts, others sex pests. Now you have a guy who clearly was overwhelmed with the beauty of being with a new partner and thoroughly enjoyed himself and hasn’t had the regular experience to control himself……and you meet it with disgust

GarrynotsoGorilla · 05/05/2025 20:20

Gymbunny2025 · 05/05/2025 18:51

Do you mean it would make you cum unintentionally in your pants? Without touching yourself?

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That has happened, not very often, but it has, in some very highly charged situations. Where I have made the woman orgasm before I am naked or we have both been dressed. Perhaps days of chat and flirtatious conversation before the event.

OfcourseitsaNC · 05/05/2025 22:05

Something similar happened with my guy on the first few dates.

He hadn't had sex in years. I now know just how much he gets off on making me cum and giving me oral.

I also now know just how much pressure he was putting on himself to make things good, as he'd fancied me for ages and he'd finally got me in his bed.

It was on the 5th attempt that we finally had penetrative sex. Took about 2 months, given the childcare issues we had to work round in the early days.

If you like him, stick with it. See what happens.

NoKnit · 06/05/2025 12:46

Surely this can only be a good thing. He made you come really quickly, you really enjoyed it and so did he by the sounds of it. Honestly can't see the problem it turns me on to think a man might fancy me that much so I wouldn't complain 🤷