Need some imagination please

RaceyMaisy · 03/05/2025 07:51

How about a sexy note?

”Hi Bill sorry I don’t meet your high expectations so I thought I’d surprise you by fucking of and finding someone whose expectations are not driven by their porn use x”

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Vanillasex · 03/05/2025 08:05

RaceyMaisy · 03/05/2025 07:51

How about a sexy note?

”Hi Bill sorry I don’t meet your high expectations so I thought I’d surprise you by fucking of and finding someone whose expectations are not driven by their porn use x”

I think it’s more of a kink , everyone has them , I’m just quite vanilla as he’s the only person I’ve ever been with so I’m clueless 🫣

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JoyousMaker · 03/05/2025 08:08

RaceyMaisy · 03/05/2025 07:51

How about a sexy note?

”Hi Bill sorry I don’t meet your high expectations so I thought I’d surprise you by fucking of and finding someone whose expectations are not driven by their porn use x”

Kinky, high expectations, fussy, uncommunicative and not thinking of you is a terrible combination.Unless there's a load of stuff missing from the message it sounds like a very unfair set up.

JoyousMaker · 03/05/2025 08:10

JoyousMaker · 03/05/2025 08:08

Kinky, high expectations, fussy, uncommunicative and not thinking of you is a terrible combination.Unless there's a load of stuff missing from the message it sounds like a very unfair set up.

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Sorry that was supposed to quote the OP, not the first reply.

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Vanillasex · 03/05/2025 08:12

JoyousMaker · 03/05/2025 08:08

Kinky, high expectations, fussy, uncommunicative and not thinking of you is a terrible combination.Unless there's a load of stuff missing from the message it sounds like a very unfair set up.

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I’m totally on board! It’s not like I’m uncomfortable with doing it at all because I’m not. We just thought it ideas to spice up our sex life snd be said do you know what would really turn me on and then he said that and I agreed! Problem is I’m struggling to find ideas. He would not make me do anything I wasn’t comfortable with, if I said no he’d be ok and wouldn’t mention it again. But I agreed and said yeah cos I think it would be fun. Honestly it’s not that deep, he knows my boundaries and I know his.

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DippingAToeIn · 03/05/2025 09:12

I think it's great that you're on board, and being able to express desires and kinks to each other is really healthy, as long as you're both comfortable.

Could you surprise him by wearing a sexy outfit, lingerie, whatever his style is, then let him walk in on you pleasuring yourself? Maybe you could then cuff him (if he likes that) and make him watch until it's unbearable and then let him join in?

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Vanillasex · 03/05/2025 09:16

DippingAToeIn · 03/05/2025 09:12

I think it's great that you're on board, and being able to express desires and kinks to each other is really healthy, as long as you're both comfortable.

Could you surprise him by wearing a sexy outfit, lingerie, whatever his style is, then let him walk in on you pleasuring yourself? Maybe you could then cuff him (if he likes that) and make him watch until it's unbearable and then let him join in?

Yes this is a great idea. Thank you, I’ll be grabbing some hand cuffs haha

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Gymbunny2025 · 03/05/2025 10:11

Go on a shopping spree with his credit card?! 😂

Adidas105 · 03/05/2025 10:59

Vanillasex · 03/05/2025 07:32

Hi all. My partner of 11 years has asked me to ‘blow his mind’ he wants to be surprised if you like as in him walking in on me doing stuff etc, he likes dildo play and roleplay etc. I am very vanilla and as you can tell do not have an active imagination 🤣 can any of you ladies give me ideas please? He is very kinky and very fussy! Thank you

Sit naked on the kitchen table with a cucumber up your vag and ask him if he wants a cucumber sandwich once you've cum

RaceyMaisy · 03/05/2025 11:13

@Adidas105

You are a grim individual get in the sea!

3luckystars · 03/05/2025 12:58

😂

Voyager54 · 03/05/2025 14:07

When he arrives back from work. Greet him at the door in long coat with nothing on underneath or and lead him to the bedroom!

Smithey885 · 03/05/2025 14:41

Difficult to guide you without knowing what you have done before or what your likes and dislikes are.

Depends on HOW kinky you want to be.

I'd suggest discussing exploring that sort of thing together as a couple rather than diving in head first and trying to work out what HE would like, it has to be mutual satisfaction.

Few ideas though:

Surprise him with a butt plug.
Have blindfolds and handcuffs at the ready.
Take complete control and let him speak and touch you ONLY when you tell him to.
Sexy outfits -
Make a film together ( On your phone ) airplay it to the tv and then delete.
Send sexy pics throughout the day telling him what you'd like him to do to you
Buy a sex swing
Wear a strap on dildo and have fun with him.
sensual massage.

Just a few ideas, ( most of which i've done in the last week 😂)

JoyousMaker · 03/05/2025 14:45

Smithey885 · 03/05/2025 14:41

Difficult to guide you without knowing what you have done before or what your likes and dislikes are.

Depends on HOW kinky you want to be.

I'd suggest discussing exploring that sort of thing together as a couple rather than diving in head first and trying to work out what HE would like, it has to be mutual satisfaction.

Few ideas though:

Surprise him with a butt plug.
Have blindfolds and handcuffs at the ready.
Take complete control and let him speak and touch you ONLY when you tell him to.
Sexy outfits -
Make a film together ( On your phone ) airplay it to the tv and then delete.
Send sexy pics throughout the day telling him what you'd like him to do to you
Buy a sex swing
Wear a strap on dildo and have fun with him.
sensual massage.

Just a few ideas, ( most of which i've done in the last week 😂)

...in the last week? Wow. What do you get up to next week?

Adidas105 · 03/05/2025 17:06

RaceyMaisy · 03/05/2025 11:13

@Adidas105

You are a grim individual get in the sea!

But I'll have fun in the sea as well. When sex was good with my ex this wasn't unusual. She was always surprising me...

SamkaSabrinka · 03/05/2025 21:22

Vanillasex · 03/05/2025 07:32

Hi all. My partner of 11 years has asked me to ‘blow his mind’ he wants to be surprised if you like as in him walking in on me doing stuff etc, he likes dildo play and roleplay etc. I am very vanilla and as you can tell do not have an active imagination 🤣 can any of you ladies give me ideas please? He is very kinky and very fussy! Thank you

how is he your partner of 11 years if you are super vanilla with zero imagination, and he is very fussy and kinky?! Sorry, just wondering how this works.. and thinking weird of him to put you on the spot like that.

Likes dildos. I'm already wondering why you are pandering to him. Does he have a lovely dick?

Adidas105 · 04/05/2025 18:59

SamkaSabrinka · 03/05/2025 21:22

how is he your partner of 11 years if you are super vanilla with zero imagination, and he is very fussy and kinky?! Sorry, just wondering how this works.. and thinking weird of him to put you on the spot like that.

Likes dildos. I'm already wondering why you are pandering to him. Does he have a lovely dick?

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He sounds like he is THE dick. Wow! I wish I had a wife or OH who was going out of her way to please me sexually!!!!!! Where were you 30 years ago? Don't answer that....