To just not want to swallow?

Locomom · 2025-04-25T14:45:54+00:00

So just as the title says really…. Am I literally the only person who doesn’t swallow? My DH is obsessed with the idea, we’ve been together 20 years, and I’ve tried it many times each time thinking i’ll do it but I just can’t. Il gag, choke almost throw up etc. Note, I would always ‘take’ it in the mouth but would generally always spit. I don’t like the consistency, the temperature, taste (although not bad tasting as such) and the fact I think that I can’t control when it happens or speed, volume etc… am I overthinking or is it not just not possible to accept that it’s simply not for me??DH keeps sending me videos saying ‘like this’ etc and each time I just say, just not for me etc…. I’d never keep on at him about doing something sexually if I knew it just wasn’t for him, what’s the story here?!!!

PTown · 25/04/2025 15:52

I’ve never had a partner finish in my mouth—it’s not something I’m comfortable with.

AnonAnonmystery · 25/04/2025 16:11

You’re not the only one!
Happy for my partner to finish in my mouth as find it quite a turn on but I usually have tissues or a glass of water I can spit into it. My partner has never mentioned it tbh.

StarlightLady · 25/04/2025 16:16

I’m 100% comfortable with it. I could make suggestions, but l don’t for one moment think that is what you are looking for.

But what l would absolutely hate is someone sending me a video about anything sexual saying “like this”. That would be a dealbreaker for me.

PTown · 25/04/2025 16:18

StarlightLady · 25/04/2025 16:16

I’m 100% comfortable with it. I could make suggestions, but l don’t for one moment think that is what you are looking for.

But what l would absolutely hate is someone sending me a video about anything sexual saying “like this”. That would be a dealbreaker for me.

Agreed. The video is giving me the ick.

Emptyandsad · 25/04/2025 16:40

My wife was like you are, OP. We laughed afterwards at her one and only attempt to swallow and we never tried it again. Because why would you? It's a weird person who gets pleasure out of something that the person you love hates. Tried it, didn't work, move on. It's not a skill you're trying to learn, ffs

I can just imagine him suggesting you take a spoonful of peanut butter before he finishes, to make it taste better. I've heard that pineapple makes a difference to the taste; buy one and shove it up his arse

Theridetohappiness · 25/04/2025 17:13

Asking you to do something you've tried and dont like is a bit shit of your DH.

If you not swallowing is spoiling his enjoyment to the extent, he needs to send you vidoes to get you do it, then maybe not giving him a blow job is the solution!!

Gymbunny2025 · 25/04/2025 17:37

Emptyandsad · 25/04/2025 16:40

My wife was like you are, OP. We laughed afterwards at her one and only attempt to swallow and we never tried it again. Because why would you? It's a weird person who gets pleasure out of something that the person you love hates. Tried it, didn't work, move on. It's not a skill you're trying to learn, ffs

I can just imagine him suggesting you take a spoonful of peanut butter before he finishes, to make it taste better. I've heard that pineapple makes a difference to the taste; buy one and shove it up his arse

Brilliant 😂

Gymbunny2025 · 25/04/2025 17:39

I love swallowing (genuinely) as long as I like the taste. But that’s me! What I would never want is for my partner to keep trying to do something for me that was making him nearly sick!!! And really is there that much difference between swallowing or not in terms of his pleasure?!

StarlightLady · 25/04/2025 17:51

This puzzled me! I swallow (I hate mess!) and mum taught me it was rude to spit 😀 although l won’t allow anyone to come on me. But what difference does swallowing make to the male partner concerned whether he is swallowed or not?

Gymbunny2025 · 25/04/2025 17:54

Exactly! If I can’t be bothered with any clean up I often ask him to finish in my mouth 😂

thisismynewnamefornow · 25/04/2025 18:07

I’m not allowed to finish in my wife’s mouth, it’s not happened once! I respect her choice, I’ve always been disappointed in that sense, it was definitely a nicer experience in previous relationships I can’t lie, having the sensation continue as you orgasm is better for me personally, wouldn’t mind spitting at all. I’ll ask every other year if she’s changed her mind at all, no luck yet. I wouldn’t in a million years send her a video, that doesn’t sound great tbf.

Mumof2amazingasdkiddos · 25/04/2025 19:00

Emptyandsad · 25/04/2025 16:40

My wife was like you are, OP. We laughed afterwards at her one and only attempt to swallow and we never tried it again. Because why would you? It's a weird person who gets pleasure out of something that the person you love hates. Tried it, didn't work, move on. It's not a skill you're trying to learn, ffs

I can just imagine him suggesting you take a spoonful of peanut butter before he finishes, to make it taste better. I've heard that pineapple makes a difference to the taste; buy one and shove it up his arse

I mean the last line nails it! If you want to spit, swallow, never have it in your mouth again, all YOUR choice and your D(ickhead)H sending videos is bang out of order! You send videos on how to learn something you've expressed an interest in learning like how to change a plug, not something that you've already tried and decided isn't for you. Tell him to stop pressuring you into something you don't want to do or next time you'll bite him!

SirRaymondClench · 25/04/2025 19:23

I've always swallowed but that's just me. There is nothing wrong with not wanting to swallow and you shouldn't be coerced into doing anything you don't want to do.
Sending you videos especially when you've said you don't want to, is veering closely toward harassment. You've said no.
Tell him your fantasy is him ramming 6 inch nails into his head and you found a video online of someone doing that and keep sending them to him and write "Do it like this" maybe he'd get the gist.

AnonAnonmystery · 25/04/2025 19:29

Gymbunny2025 · 25/04/2025 17:54

Exactly! If I can’t be bothered with any clean up I often ask him to finish in my mouth 😂

I love how domestic us women are, even when having sex lol we think about saving our sheets 😅

Gymbunny2025 · 25/04/2025 19:33

😂

Emptyandsad · 25/04/2025 19:41

Gymbunny2025 · 25/04/2025 17:54

Exactly! If I can’t be bothered with any clean up I often ask him to finish in my mouth 😂

It's all about avoiding the wet patch...

Theridetohappiness · 25/04/2025 20:03

@StarlightLady

Off the top of my HEAD possible benefits to the receiver.

1 At the point of ejaculation I am super sensitive and it’s the feeling of still being inside the mouth is very pleasurable. Not finishing in the mouth is good but not the same

2 A power dynamic of coming in the mouth. If your wanting to feel dominant. (Not my thing)

3 I believe swallowing is very intimate and it quite hot. (can’t deny it’s better)

4 From my experience the woman who have swallowed have been more sexuality liberated than the ones that haven’t and has been a good indicator of things to come.

5 having to think not to come in the mouth gets in your head and spoils the moment, swallowing just has a better flow to proceedings.

Can’t think of anything else. End of the day having someone suck you’re dick is pretty amazing and not to be turned down for the sake of the ending but a for me swallowing gives an overall better experience.

Happy for others to disagree

Original poster

Locomom · 25/04/2025 20:43

Emptyandsad · 25/04/2025 16:40

My wife was like you are, OP. We laughed afterwards at her one and only attempt to swallow and we never tried it again. Because why would you? It's a weird person who gets pleasure out of something that the person you love hates. Tried it, didn't work, move on. It's not a skill you're trying to learn, ffs

I can just imagine him suggesting you take a spoonful of peanut butter before he finishes, to make it taste better. I've heard that pineapple makes a difference to the taste; buy one and shove it up his arse

Love that! Yeah tried the whole pineapple thing, it doesn’t even taste bad tbh, it’s just the warmth of it I think, feels like swallowing oysters, which I’m not big into either 😂

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Emptyandsad · 25/04/2025 20:45

Swallowing oysters is just like having a heavy cold...

hoopyvest · 26/04/2025 07:50

My wife used to swallow but then decided she no longer wanted to (it could have been when she was pregnant).

I don't often manage to finish from a BJ, but when I do it's amazing - just the best feeling ever. I'm so shattered afterwards I couldn't care less where my cum has gone, and I certainly wouldn't want to hug, thank and kiss my wife knowing she had done something she disliked.

Voyager54 · 26/04/2025 08:24

The answer is IMHO using a flavoured condom if you do not like swallowing.

3luckystars · 26/04/2025 09:09

What difference does it make what you do with it at that stage ? I can’t see why it makes any difference to him once it’s out.

everywhichway · 26/04/2025 09:32

One swallow might not make a summer but it can make for a pretty good evening....

Thank you. I'm here all week.

Whammyyammy · 26/04/2025 17:45

I only do as i don't like the mess

Namechangednorth · 27/04/2025 09:29

Not easy when you simply don’t like it! Not easy when he is presuming you with videos either!. I wasn’t keen the first time but really wanted to try and seeing the sheer pleasure on his face and moans convinced me. I don’t do all the time, more as a treat but I do love doing now and always swallow for him, although he likes to see it in my mouth a bit first !