To just not want to swallow?

[Locomom]

So just as the title says really…. Am I literally the only person who doesn’t swallow? My DH is obsessed with the idea, we’ve been together 20 years, and I’ve tried it many times each time thinking i’ll do it but I just can’t. Il gag, choke almost throw up etc. Note, I would always ‘take’ it in the mouth but would generally always spit.
I don’t like the consistency, the temperature, taste (although not bad tasting as such) and the fact I think that I can’t control when it happens or speed, volume etc… am I overthinking or is it not just not possible to accept that it’s simply not for me??DH keeps sending me videos saying ‘like this’ etc and each time I just say, just not for me etc…. I’d never keep on at him about doing something sexually if I knew it just wasn’t for him, what’s the story here?!!!

Why don’t you snowball him, OP? 😈

Thanks for this - I love to swallow and often ask my DH to come inside my mouth because it turns me on. I think you may be on to something with the point about being more sexually open, as I’m definitely more that way than my DH is.

I hope my DH agrees with all your points. 😁

@AlexandrinaH

Really appreciate your reply. Wanted to give an honest male opinion but I had wondered if I’d gone TMI. Would be interesting to hear what your DH thinks.

I’ve always found the BJ’s with swallowing better than those without to be honest.

Understandable- imagine a woman receiving oral sex and he stops just as she’s about to come. That would be so incredibly frustrating.

I’ll let you know if I ever get round (or brave enough 😂) to asking 😂👍🏻

I think we all have things we don't want to do sexually. For my case, I always swallow when he cum in my mouth, but I don't like getting cum on my face. But if it's something he really cares about, he might, I mean might, look for it elsewhere if he doesn't have it with the person he is right now.

I swallow, mainly because it saves the cleanup and any mess on the bed or sticky tissues! It doesn't happen that often and he doesn't have much of a load as I l know he masturbates regularly, which I don't mind for this reason.

@Locomom

I think my DH would have left me by now if I had refused to swallow his gravy lol

Keep practicing - you’ll get there!!

No man in the history of men would end a marriage solely because their spunk isn’t being ingested. I guess it may be the straw that breaks the camels back sometimes 😂 but that poor camel would be carrying a lot already!!!

It depend if it's something that he really enjoy

This post got me thinking … my dp has always been ok with me spitting and just happy to come in my mouth, I might ask him if he gets offended that I don’t 😬

Yes he may end a newish relationship because of this (quite reasonably)

but end a marriage, lose his house (possibly), get max 50% with his kids, his friends, half his pension etc because yes he got BJ but his wife didn’t swallow?!

no chance 😂

I still don’t understand though, once it’s out and in your mouth, his enjoyment is over.

What difference does it make what you actually do with it then?

Or are men’s orgasms still going on after they are finished?

Yes, you are right. He probably just take it elsewhere, but maintaint his mariage intact!

As someone comfortable swallowing, l assume those who opt to spit do so because they dislike the taste/texture? I agree thatnobody should do anything sex related that they do not want to do.

But, you can feel the pulse change when the explosion is imminent. If you take the head to the back of your mouth it flows straight down. I would have thought retaining it in your mouth to move elsewhere to spit would prolong the flavour.

I'm going to talk about my experience; obviously, it doesn't apply to everyone. When I suck my man off and he completely ejaculates in my mouth, the blowjob doesn't stop there; I keep sucking, and it must be like us when we come. It's sensitive, so it can be very pleasant. He looks at me almost all the time when he ejaculates in my mouth. We often have eye contact, which I find sexy, so I don't even dare imagine how he finds it. For me, swallowing is something I did with my regular lovers when I was single or with my boyfriends. I wasn't slutty during my first encounters (except with my current boyfriend).

To finish, the cum is already in your month, you already taste it. For myself, i swallow every 2-3 spurts, so i dont have a mouth full, because if you let him finish and you try to swallow at the end, it could be harder 😜 (i did it many time with a ex partner, let him finish and swallow at the end, but with my boyfriend, that was not the same amount at the end, and it take me some secondes to do it)

Its exactly what i said. If you dont swallow, your gonna taste it longer or make a mess 😜

Tell him you'd like to try pegging him with a huge dildo... even though he will say he doesn't like it, send him some videos of someone loving it and say he should try it 'like this' and once he mastered it you'll give swallowing another try!

It’s going to be a tricky sell for this poor hypothetical man. I’m imagining his tinder account…

married man, looking for NSA sex. No time for dates or romance. You must have your own home, as my family are in mine. Looking for someone to swallow my load, as the wife refuses (maybe I taste bad)? Not bothered about anything else. GSOH and hobbies include windsurfing.

I tried it and hated it so always refused to have it in my mouth. It's a real ick if he keeps pestering you.

Tell him firmly the answer is no, will always be no, and he's now harassing you. If he continues to harass then you'll stop giving BJs altogether. Either that, or say you'll swallow once he's swallowed his own jiz a few times. Bet he won't.

This is what is used to do when I was a “swallowing newbie” and found the taste a little…distasteful. If it hits the back of your tongue you can’t taste anything and it’s quickly swallowed.

I don’t mind the taste of it now.

Early 40’s. Wife has told me she ‘doesn’t like the taste of my semen compared to her past experiences.’ She says she will let my ejaculate if i’m in her throat, which is once every 1000 days so basically no oral climax - which is her perogative - but in practicality it means that basically no oral sex climax. It’s up to you what you like/want, just communicate well.

I’m sure you have- but have you tried things to make it taste nicer? I’m with your wife. Some tastes really bitter and not nice. I wouldn’t enjoy swallowing that at all. Luckily my long term partners have always tasted delicious (which makes me think it’s because of pheromones but I’ve no idea really!)

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