Long weekend casual fun...

[Freeflight]

Not sure if this is the best thread but...I'm in a bit of a rut.
Having been single for over 2 years after a long unsatisfying marriage to my very first boyfriend, not finding any relationship options from dating apps, social groups/events, I'm questioning if I want to try a casual set up, but I'm thinking a long weekend. Is that even a thing? I feel I see it on Tinder but not sure I'd have any luck at my age.

Basically, has anyone gone away for a long weekend alone, maybe an Airbnb apartment and used the dating apps for a bit of fun?
Any tips, advice, city/location suggestions?
I'm almost 40 (definitely not a godess in the looks department) and live near Manchester so not there or Liverpool as it would be nice to go somewhere and know that at the end of the weekend I'm gone.

Do you mean have a weekend away with someone you are meeting just for sex or base yourself somewhere and have a few different encounters while you are away?

Why not visit a swingers club if you just want sex, it's probably safer than meeting a random man in a hotel as there will be a selection of willing/ available men and also other people around / some kind of event security and less risk of encountering someone dangerous or who may not 'understand' consent.

@AltitudeCheck I don't think i would be keen on meeting multiple people, I'm thinking more along an idea of going to another city/large town and attempting to connect with someone who would be interested in having some fun across the whole weekend after heading for some drinks to see if there is some attraction. I guess cramming 3 dates with the same person into one weekend sort of thing.
I can sometimes be a shy type so it is definitely outside of my norm, but that's why I want to really think about it before making a decision.

Is a swingers set up going to be more visible with multiple men, others around etc. Not sure I'd have the confidence for it. Genuinely know very little so happy to be told otherwise.

I suspect (but don’t know) that most men looking for NSA hookups on tinder etc would be after a one off session? A whole weekend together implies some sort of established connection to me.

@Gymbunny2025 potentially, and a good point. Am going in with the idea that if nothing were to come of it, I'd have a nice weekend away exploring somewhere with nice food and drinks.

That’s exactly what I’d do- go somewhere you want to visit. Plan fun stuff. Load up tinder and then have fun choosing the lucky guy 😉

@Gymbunny2025 any suggestions where haha. Nice food, places to wander, any other safety tips.....

I guess you need a city to have plenty of men to choose from 😂. In terms of safety- probably staying in a hotel rather than air bnb? Maybe even go with another single girlfriend? Like Thelma and Louise!!

@Gymbunny2025 unfortunately, I only have 1 single female friend and she is an absolute goddess (plus a lot younger) so would have all the men fawning over her completely ignoring me lol.

airbnbnbj?

😂😂

Why not take up a new hobby, something new that would give you a new lease of life and fun, meeting other people and going from there?

This Tinder stuff is horrific to me, I could never do it, and I feel for any woman who uses it, knowing the kind of male scum (not all, but many!) who frequent it and just use women for what they can get.

You sound way above all that - take your time, you’ll find a nice guy in due course.

Good luck whatever you do, just be very careful.

That’s a shame- terrible wing woman!! Oh well I guess you won’t be sleeping with Brad Pitt (when he was hot!)

@Tristan5 I appreciate the sentiment, but with this I'm exploring the idea of having some safe fun that is different to what I've already been doing (which is the hobbies, getting involved in projects at work to meet new people etc)

Sometimes you just don't find someone, and at this moment I'd like a man to touch my naked flesh who is not my very young child and therefore this is something I'm pondering.

I'm pretty awesome, intelligent, have some great friends, i just don't seem to appeal to the men that appeal to me on a relationship basis so why not look into other avenues.

@everywhichway hahaha. Sadly the Airbnbs are pricey or I could put that as my bio if I do go.

@Gymbunny2025 ah remember when he was hot lol! Yeah, I sometimes wish she was revolting, last time I went out with her I spent most of the night mopping up male drool.

Hi,

Most meets from hookups sites tend to be just a one night thing but there’s no reason why it couldn’t be weekend long adventure. Just be very clear and honest about what exactly you’re after.

The only potential problem is if you meet someone on the first night and there’s no chemistry. Then the whole weekend might be ruined. If you go for three dates with three different people then even if one night is no good you still have the other two.

Whatever you decide, make it clear exactly what you want and spend some time talking to the person online first. Always meet them in a public place.

@foxy735 yes good point. I think the idea of a different man each night makes me feel a bit uncomfortable as I'm of the idea that first sex isn't usually the best so maybe if it was a couple nights it gives a chance to get super confident and comfortable.

Oh, always always meet in a public place, and it is swaying me more towards a hotel that is maybe safer than an Airbnb set up. Although it would be good to have a little kitchenette in case it goes rubbish and I just need to chill alone haha

Have you heard of the Feeld app OP? I have a friend who has a bit of a love/hate relationship with it (and has sent me some funny profiles!) but it might help you connect with a potential or 3 in advance of your trip so at least you have some ‘maybes’ lined up

she doesn’t like that a lot of the men are ENM though

That depends on the guy you pick. Some will blow you mind the first time and others never seem to figure it out.

If only meeting one person is your preference, then there’s no reason why you shouldn’t find someone but again, just be very honest and explain clearly what you are after. Spend plenty of time chatting to them before you meet them. Again, always meet them in public the first time.

As far as hotel vs airbnb is concerned I don’t know if there is a huge difference but I always prefer hotels. Ive heard too many stories about dodgy airbnbs.

@foxy735 any tips for finding the first type?! 😂 I've not had my mind blown at all yet, even in my long term relationship.

I’m not going to go into details about what I look for on the public forum. But I would say to just be honest with yourself about what exactly you what in terms of physically appearance, attitude, etc. And be honest with the guy when chatting about what exactly you want from him.

@foxy735 i think id probably change up my dating app profile to mention that I'm only there for a few nights so I'm clear from the get go. And then you can chat, go for a drink and see.

You’ll have your pick @Freeflight! Make sure you go for someone who is very attractive to you (both physically and also his communication style) and maybe ask for a dreaded dick pic! Plus I’d avoid anyone older personally as you want everything in working order 😂

Don’t just wait for a guy to message you. I’m sure you have an image in your head of what you want the guy to look like so browse the men in the area you are going to and if you see someone that matches what you’re after then don’t be afraid to message the guys first. It usually ends well.

You should also register on a few different sites.

@Gymbunny2025 and @foxy735 thanks for the tips. Now to pick a city I guess.
I definitely think if it's for a casual thing I will be able to say yes to more profiles as I won't be looking for those relationship qualities.

Definitely don’t go looking for a relationship type.

@foxy735 definitely not. Attractive to me, has some banter about them and confidence and finds someone a bit fat attractive.