Name and shame?

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Would it be inappropriate to start a thread naming those who send unsolicited private messages in response to posts on the Sex thread?

@SimpleSister - There have been other occasions when PMs have been useful too. Examples include, suggesting bars and restaurants in Paris which, for selfish reasons (sorry!) l don’t want to share with the whole world and recommending a particular beach. Also recommending a lesbian friendly venue in a certain city. I only want to share with those who appear genuine.

Agreed…I have asked for local recommendations on other pages, but I always ask, “Can I send you a DM?”

Barging into someone’s inbox, when the literal header at the top of the page says not to send unwanted DMs, is manspreading at its worst. Stay out of my space, unless you have asked first.

Do you get a lot of DM from women (as a man) out of interest @Hubbyuk?

I'd echo that, I'd be happy to receive DMs but wouldn't "slide into" anyone else's uninvited. Haven't received any to date, but to be honest it's not my primary reason for coming here and can well appreciate why people turn them off all together!

Please don't send me any more DMs ladies - my waiting list is into three figures now.

Why do men message you? How intriguing!

Can’t say I’ve ever had one? Am I missing out?

Even though recently I had a really unsettling dm that shook me to my core, I keep my dm’s on mainly if I can help other women . Currently helping someone from the relationships board as I offered my help and they took me up on it. It’s a shame sometimes our trust is abused though with men mainly pretending to be women then introducing themselves as “Paul” 🧐. I refuse to turn them off just because people don’t know how to behave decently!

Now then! I was taught many years ago that 1+1+1 isn't 111!

Grad psychology student doing a social experiment. 😆

When you consider it, this is the same in every walk of life, you get those who make unwanted advances. Those who stare in the street, make lewd comments etc.

They may think they are smart, but in reality they are the ones we avoid.

You are absolutely right @StarlightLady

i actually had that at work the other day. A man walked passed then turned around and said WOW then hello to me. Luckily it was a public place in the middle of the day so I didn’t feel intimidated. But the wolf whistling and car honking etc really used to upset me as a young woman.

I’ve always wondered what their aim is. Just being sexually aggressive? Or trying to be PUA 🤔😂

I’ve had a few women message me - one wanted to share experiences on a mutual problem and the other one was clearly trying to chat me up. Not for me, but I was polite!

But otherwise, it’s always men.

He was a massive bellend 😂

He was probably just boasting about that.