Name and shame?

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Would it be inappropriate to start a thread naming those who send unsolicited private messages in response to posts on the Sex thread?

But I bet they are posters you ‘know’ and not random men sending out Hi 👋 or offering you tips on growing aubergines 😂😂

I've had some of them too! No Mexicans yet though.

That was a good tip about disabling private message. I've just gone on my profile and switched mine off - I hadn't spotted that option before. Interestingly, if I write something on here, especially if there's any hint that I might enjoy sex, it flushes them out of the woodwork. I also post on Feminism and Women's Rights, but whilst people seem to like what write - they leave me little emojis to say so - nobody's ever written me a private message from there. I came for the sex and stayed for the feminism.

There was me thinking I was special too 😂 wonder if he has a sombrero 🤔

He'll send you a picture of him wearing one now - but it won't be on his head....

They seem more interested in melons! 😀

Really?! I have posted on various boards under various usernames over the years. I have NEVER had the ‘hey how you doin’ type messages from random guys until I posted on here. Not once. All of a sudden I’m getting multiple a week.

maybe your gardening posts are full of unintentional innuendo 😂

I got the "Hey" and "Hey babe" stuff on here - not the gardening threads! They're a seriously unimaginative bunch I must say....

I changed my name for this.
I have twice sent unsolicated messages. Both were to ladies on here who said they wanted sex chat. The first resulted in a very sexy messaging session and we have sice become friends. My wife has met her and we have met her partner (neither have any idea about that one chat which will not be repeated)
The second was similar and the lady reported me and I almost got banned from here.
I'm not gong to risk sending any more

Yep 😂

He was also A LOT younger than he made out to be at first too - a lot! I think he was still at school or university (he lived in USA).

No, I didn’t have intimate chats with him 😂

Can you grow decent melons , I’m fairly far up north and not sure the weather is suitable, as for aubergine, wouldn’t want to grow them, don’t like them at all, any tips on small apple tree or developing a new build garden appreciated , or am I on the wrong thread🤔

To add to my earlier comments (even when posting on the simplest of subjects, which this is not, l often think of things after pressing send!), l would expect any PM to come with the courtesy and respect of real life.

Namely, introduce yourself (including what your sex is), say why you are messaging me and explain the context of what you are asking or telling me.

”Hi darling”, “hello” or asking me something out of the blue just does not hack it. Neither does quoting me and adding a smiley.

l had a classic some time back when l said on another part of MN that l was quite relaxed about being seen naked. One idiot thought this an opportunity to request nude pics!

But, as l said up thread, along the way, l like to think l’ve genuinely helped a few peeps (and been thanked) and that is why l won’t switch my PMs off.

The trouble with gardens in new build developments is that they've applied the thinnest layer of topsoil and turf they can get away with over compacted builders' rubble and cement waste, so it's well worth digging deep and breaking this up wherever you want trees to flourish. More organic matter is always a good idea. I've often found one of the cheapest ways to do this, for small projects at least, is to get the lowest priced grow bags you can find at the garden cantre. That's 30-odd litres of organic matter and fertiliser (at a very affordable price) in each one. Mix that into the material into the planting hole and that'll give trees a bit of help until they establish.

See - gardening's actually quite fun!

@AlexaAdventuress - l would add some water into the hole before inserting the tree.

Yes, and give the roots of bare-root stock a good soak in water before planting them too. Even when they're dormant I'm sure they appreciate a drink after their journey.

I've got a lovely Pinus rigida if anyone wants to see.

A rabbit has been at my clematis!

We don't need that kind of smut on here thank you very much.

Love the gardening chat 😂 I was sat in mine with a friend earlier. We have a very old house/established garden with daffodils all over the lawn atm. So Beautiful 😍

Speak for yourself. I've just put a load of absolute filth into one of my vegetable beds!

🐰 🌺 😂😂

AAgh! another PM I didn't want. Just launched into his opinion, scarcely linked to my original comment.
If only they would ask me if I want to continue, NOT encounter the word cum in the opening para with first cup of tea of the day. Y'know invite me to participate. Then I can refuse politely, as I do. It helps us all maintain the standards.

Exactly! Surely it’s not too much to ask!

l’ve no problem when l get a polite introduction and people are respectful. I’ve heard back recently from someone l believe l have genuinely helped so l don’t want to switch PMs off.

@StarlightLady as you say, I’ve heard back recently from someone l believe l have genuinely helped so l don’t want to switch PMs off.
I was also thanked by someone, that was about feeling Bi. It is worthwhile being open to PMs IMO.
Without them some would go to a much more dangerous place.