PM's disabled?

[Maccar305]

Did I miss something?
Is PM's disabled for everyone or just me??
Am I on the naughty step??

Haven't messaged anyone for a while now ..... 🤷‍♂️

They are temporarily suspended because some people have been sent DMs with links to CSA images in them. More details in Site Stuff.

Don’t worry, it’s not just you! 😂

Phew!
That's reassuring!

I’m sure there’s more than a few guys from this board worrying about the same thing 😂😂

I wondered what had happened I had two messages not to long ago and when I opened it it said they had been deleted at the senders request? Is this how it's going with others?

That means someone else has reported them and do all the messages they've sent have been deleted. Unsolicited DM break mumsnet guidelines

No, that’s when the poster has deleted their account. Currently can’t see messages at all - there’s just a blank screen and a message saying it’s disabled.

I find that when someone has been reported and banned the messages remain. They only disappear when an account is deleted.

I’ve reported quite a few awful messages to know this 😂.

I never report anyone who messages me if they are polite!

Mumsnet told me that was the message that comes up when an account is deleted by them. To reassure me that a rather gross account had been deleted

I always report unsolicited Dm 😂

I've been chatting to someone on here for a while now (here and one other platform). We've had a few disagreements of late and I "ended" things.

The first time I ended it, the other platform we used stopped working for me. It crossed my mind that it was a "sign".... but we made up and have been talking here. Then a number of days after it ended (again), the PM function was disabled.

It's definitely a sign, yes? 🤷‍♀️

PM them and ask them if they think it's a sign?

I think I know what they would say.

And I doubt any of the issues have disappeared.

If you’ve not even met ‘them’ why are you wanting to chat when it’s making you unhappy?

We haven't spoken in a month.

I’ve been where you are and honestly, if it doesn’t make you happy don’t bother. Chatting online is meant to be a fun distraction, not a headache.

Well done @ThreeGoesAtAWord

Chatting online is meant to be a fun distraction, not a headache. - they (let's be honest, he) would agree with that. And for him that's all it was. I just can't do it. I just can't listen to someone telling me they love me and be OK knowing it's all bullish!t.

No, definitely not. Sounds like time to put him behind you.

Easier said than done apparently.

It is, and I should know because it happened to me, with a guy from here too. Sounds very similar to your guy and has made me wonder if it’s the same one! I really would not trust a guy who told me he loved me if he’s never met me.

He’s probably doing the same thing to 10 other women on here.

You need to DM each other and out these guys!!

I agree entirely!

😂

My PMs are turned off now.

Good luck OP, it’s hard but you can move on. I actually did meet mine in real life several times so it wasn’t just a case of blocking messages and moving on, and was much harder.

It can be done though.

It could well be the same one!

I guess I never really believed him when he said it (or anything else he said) but it's hard to not get wrapped up in it too. It was all just said to get me to "fall" for him and keep me around.

Everything was all just bullish!t.

Maybe it's time to think about deleting my account.