Peeing/ejaculating on himself?

[abittooweird]

I've been seeing someone for a year. We'd been friends for a long time before that and over the years have had discussions about sexual preferences and 'kinks' in the past, so he knows I'm quite open minded.

He recently told me he's into golden showers. Fine. Not an issue. I asked whether he wanted to be the 'pee-er', or having it done to him and he said both. No issues so far with what he's told me.

But the other night we were messaging and he said he wanted to tell me "what I did last week but it's more of an in-person conversation". I somehow knew it would be a bit of a kink kind of thing and knew I'd probably need time to process it as my face sometimes has subtitles! So he eventually messaged and I don't really know how to react...

This is exactly how it went:

Him -"You know I told you I did a handstand the other night?" (He'd mentioned he had stomach pains but he knew it was because he'd strained his stomach doing a handstand a few nights previously, when I asked why he was doing handstands at 40 years old he said it was for fitness reasons!"

Me - "yeah".

Him - "I was naked". "On my bed". "With the waterproof blanket underneath so I didn't mess up my bed".

I asked whether it was wee or cum and he said both.

I couldn't picture it so kept asking questions and he eventually said he laid on his back with his feet basically up the wall and shuffled up as high as he could so his penis was as high above his head as possible then peed on himself before masturbating over himself too.
I asked if he aimed to pee and cum in his own mouth and he said no, some did go in but that wasn't the aim - he liked the sensation of peeing over his own face and hair and the thought of that plus generally being horny plus blood rushing to his head helped him come.

This just feels a bit too weird to me... He bought the waterproof blanket after he told me he liked golden showers which seemed presumptuous but we've never actually used it together as it's now on his bed in his house. He uses it a lot on his own.

I wouldn't mind him coming on me, or peeing on me, or even if he wanted to come on himself with me watching but the thought of him there in his room, upside down in that odd position, doing that all on his lonesome (whilst apparently imagining me watching him) feels a bit... Just, weird!
I think the way he explained it to me didn't help either, and the mention of handstands the day before he'd admitted what the 'handstand' was really all about.

He genuinely thought I'd find it a turn on and I just sort of changed the subject as I didn't know how to react. Glad he didn't tell me in person though!

Why does this bother me so much? Is it weird or am I being prudish?

In the grand scheme of things it's not a big deal in my mind. He told you, you didn't like talking about it. He stopped the conversation. What somebody does in privacy to get themselves off differs for all of us.

well, it's just something he likes, and he's trying to see if you will accept it and maybe join in/ like it too. People have much weirder kinks than this, but this is his thing. It sounds like it is not yours.

I couldn't be arsed to wash the sheets! That would put me off before I got any further thinking about it than that.

I am quite open minded but I feel sick thinking about this. So unsexy. I couldn't move past it

Firstly, you are perfectly entitled to find his kinks something that you would not enjoy. If you find the kink too weird, then you need to tell him that you don't want to hear from him again about this practice. Tell him that he needs to reserve this for when he is alone, and that you don't want to know what he gets up to. If the fact that he is still going to indulge in this kink on a solitary basis is a deal breaker, then you need to terminate the relationship. You are entitled to feel any way you want about this kink.

Sometimes partners can reach an understanding in which they feel rather ambivalent about their partner's kinks and, if they do not harm them in any way, they agree to participate in the kink for the reason that it provides pleasure for the other half. You need to decide where on the scale of tolerance you sit. It really is as simple as that.

Sounds like you’re not a good match and it’s time to throw this one back. For all you know, his perfect upside-down peeing woman could be out there and you’re blocking him from meeting her. And maybe he’s blocking you from meeting a more like-minded right-side-up partner for yourself.

There are some real odd characters out there

Yeah I think some things are probably best left in private - fine if he wants to do that in his own time but I wouldn’t want to know about it.

That's not a handstand!

This is just weird.

sounds like he did not want to have secrets from you and probably hoped from your reaction if it was something you would be able to do together

That's one of the strangest things I've ever heard. Really deviant that goes beyond any form of normality..Most women and indeed Men would find that odd odd odd.

Probably a bit out there in terms of watersports. But as watersports are a fairly common fetish I don't think it is extremely odd.

Wouldn't be for me and it would totally put me off, especially the bit about his pee going in his mouth 🤮

Each to their own but nah