Waken me up for sex?

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Does anyone else like an early night but not want to miss out on sex? With teens in the house I’m often wanting to sleep before they do and DH is a night owl. So I have taken to wearing my crotch less knickers to bed on the nights I fancy him wakening me up when he comes to bed… or ones with bottom access! Any other subtle ideas I might have missed out on? I want him to not feel it’s expected. But more like it would be welcomed…

Why don’t you just tell him before you go up what you will be wearing? So he knows he’s got your consent? And also just in case he’s not feeling you up he won’t know and you’ll be disappointed if he goes to sleep? Also teens sleep till lunchtime and through a bomb usually! How about morning sex also?
also letting him know through the day that you are horny and can’t wait to builds the anticipation!
also … is there a bit of a mid balance in sex drives … Just you saying it would be welcome and not expected? Seems a bit like you can’t be direct with sex with him? It’s just my inference, I could be wrong?

I meant mis balance !

Any other subtle ideas I might have missed out on? I want him to not feel it’s expected. But more like it would be welcomed…

why not simply say you are up for sex if he is ? , clear and understandable.

We are the opposite. DH works long hours and often is in bed and fast asleep before me, but loves to be woken up by me to have sex during the night.

We got in the habit of morning sex when our kids were small and we would be so sleep deprived, it was more relaxing to go to bed and sleep at night and have sex when we woke up.

So now, unless we are on holiday, we are much more likely to have sex in the middle of the night or first thing in the morning, rather than when we get into bed at the end of the day. Works for us.

Some time ago this topic came up, One woman has some red shoes with heels so high that were impossible to wear for mundane activities. If she was in the mood, she wore them. If husband was in the market for it he would get them from wardrobe and place next to her desk.

Have you heard of vabbing?

If you use sex toys together, you could leave one on his pillow. If you use condoms, one of those instead.

If your DH is a night owl and goes to bed late perhaps you need to plant the idea earlier. When you go up you could (discretely) give him the knickers you have been wearing. He might decide to go to bed earlier.