Hello
So my DP has had issues with maintaining and finishing. He got viagra and it worked for the first 3 times then he hasn't managed since.
He thinks its psychological.
However, I cant help but feel its made it less appealing now to me. There has to be an element of planning, e.g. I cant just roll over in the morning or spontaneously instigate it.
He has now resorted to not having sex often - say once every 2 weeks. He says he has no issues if using his own hand!
I was getting frustrated, so I increased my own self-love several times a week.
Now when we do have sex, I dont feel aroused any more. It seems more mechanical than anything.
We do cuddle a lot, kiss etc.
How do I start getting a spark back? Its been months from I have been able to finish during sex either through my own mood or him being able to maintain for long enough.
We want to try for a baby in another year or so, and I feel there will be complications due to this. Through the lack of sex, ejaculation, my age etc.