Married man pursuing me for sex

[winterrabbit]

Bit of a weird situation. I am 47, married and with 3 kids. About a year ago I became quite friendly with one of the dad's in DS2's football team although I am friends with a lot of the parents. The friendliness just consisted of a few pitchside chats and the occasional message via Whatsapp. About 6 months ago he started texting me quite regularly, casual and friendly at first, but then became starting saying how much he likes me, how beautiful I am, can we meet up etc? I ignored it to begin with but have started to engage slightly, saying I like him as a friend but am married. He is also married with 2 kids. Just seems really odd as he is now saying he has fallen in love with me, can we meet etc, noone will know. I am married (2nd marriage, first husband had an affair and we split) and although we have issues our sex life is really good. I also don"t think I could cheat on DH either physically or morally. I am still a bit curious though and finding it quite odd behaviour on his part. I can only assume he does this all the time and is looking for casual sex. He does seem a nice guy though.

I wouldn't have asked if I knew what you meant. I wasn't sure if you were talking about the "topic" in terms of affairs generally, or whether you meant the reputation of the MN sex boards.

But of course it's your prerogative not to answer me and I'll draw my own inferences from that.

I meant - although I'm sure you know that - the sex topic and some of its posters.

He’s a creep and probably does this a lot. I fail to see how that’s flattering, quite the opposite. You’ll just be one of many.

You have been flattered and are ‘curious’. I think you must have low self esteem to have fallen for it and enjoy it, anyone with good self esteem would be sickened, think what a creepy sad little man and ignore him as much as possible.

Address the issues you have in your own life and sort them before you fuck everything up for a complete twat like this.

I believe@BIWI was just pointing out that there are a great many posters on this board who demonstrate very questionable sexual mores and values.

She also seemed (to me) to be pointing out that this board has a well-known reputation for things like this.

He's fallen in love with you?????

Come on.

Ting!

Draw a line under it, block him and move on., no future there.

We all know what biwi was trying to point out, embarrassingly though the majority of posters have said for the op to block him thus demonstrating The Sex People do indeed have unquestionable sexual mores and values.

Try to focus on your pervs not other people's mores and values.

Try to focus on your pervs not other people's mores and values

The two are not mutually exclusive though.

You've said repeatedly it isn't genuine posters values that bother you, you just want rid of pervs. Pervs whom you have defined repeatedly.

Yet here we have you and your pal actually revealing your true colours. It is other's morals and values you judge. Which as I said fell flat as this thread demonstrates most do have morals and values.

So, if I were you'd I'd regroup. Decide that it is the unwanted messages and perverted threads you want to stop, rightly so.

Just leave the unnecessary judging of the 'morals' (🙄) of genuine posters out of it. For the trillionth time.

I think, though, that we have already established that 'pervs' are their own sub-class @Janiie. Which is different from those posters whose 'morals' (not quite sure why you needed the speech marks there?) are questionable.

Oh, and @TheShellBeach isn't my pal. She's just another poster who feels like I do about some of these things. We probably disagree quite strongly about others.

So will you please admit that the majority of responses have suggested the op ignore the sex pest? From this you must agree that the majority of The Sex People do indeed have 'morals' rather then sniffily generalising about the 'reputation of the topic'. I mean, seriously.

Perhaps keep your campaigning to just reporting any unpleasant threads as we manage perfectly well on the rest of mn.

Nobody would deny that the sex boards in general are sometimes frequented by posters whose motivations for being on here are questionable.

However, on this particular thread, only one poster has seemingly condoned cheating. That's their opinion and they're entitled to speak it regardless of whether others disagree.

To use that one post as an example of the "reputation" of a much wider topic (the sex boards in general) is unwarranted and, I would say, unreasonable. It's clearly designed to provoke a reaction.

Perhaps in future, we could disagree with other individual posters, and call out unacceptable behaviour, without resorting to the clumsy bashing of the sex boards as a whole.

Yes @PinotPony , that would be much more pleasant.

Just leave the unnecessary judging of the 'morals' (🙄) of genuine posters out of it. For the trillionth time

Okay @Janiie I'll gladly do that if you'll tell me how to discern which posters are genuine. I've only asked you and @Mermaidparades this about a trillion times and you never answer.

Oh, and @TheShellBeach isn't my pal. She's just another poster who feels like I do about some of these things. We probably disagree quite strongly about others

I expect we do @BIWI
You and I know very little about one another and I can think of two issues where we do disagree.

But that's irrelevant. We do have markedly similar views on a couple of issues. The sex board, for example.

We don't exchange PMs though, and know precisely nothing about one another. Not even each others' real names.

I've told you a thousand times.

Here it is again. You report anything that bothers you. Mnhq have a little look at the situation, assess their posting history etc and they decide. That's it!

Granted trolls and no doubt 'pervs' may play the long game and build up a respectable posting history, so sadly none of it is 100% troll/perv proof. But it's mnhqs job not yours

What you (not you particularly but a pp) don't do is cast aspersions on all the posters on a board sniffing on about 'livivg up to its reputation'.

@Janiie I wasn't asking you or@Mermaidparades how you thought I should identify what you call "genuine posters".

I was asking how you and Mermaid identify them.

I already report people who seem dodgy to MNHQ so your advice on that is not required. You know jolly well that I report, anyway.

Do you report, though? Or do you have some way of knowing who are "genuine posters" which I don't know about?

What you (not you particularly but a pp) don't do is cast aspersions on all the posters on a board, sniffing on about 'living up to its reputation'.

Nobody was casting aspersions on all the posters on the sex board. I'm not sure how you came to that conclusion.

No no I'm not psychic or anything. I've lots of skills but not that. At the risk of boring us all to death I just..report.

How do you differentiate between perverts and genuine posters?

'Living up to the reputation of this topic' does indeed sound like it's a blanket tut at all The Sex People and not just disapproval the odd dodgy one that shows up.

Omg.

I report and let mnhq decide. Haven't we had this conversation like a thousand times.

We have.
You're always banging on about some of us making opprobrious remarks about so-called "genuine posters" but you refuse to say how you work out who the genuine posters are.

'Living up to the reputation of this topic' does indeed sound like it's a blanket tut at all The Sex People and not just disapproval the odd dodgy one that shows up

Well that's a bit of a question isn't it? How many dodgy posters does it take to change a lightbulb give the topic a dubious reputation?