How to maintain this?

[NorthernGirlie]

Been together 15 years, 11 year old dc. We've maintained affection but dry spells are frequent!

We went away for the night last night and definitely re-kindled! Hotel sex is waaay better than home sex! We tried new things and both let go!

We both said it was amazing and neither of us want to let things slip again.

Top tips for a healthy sex life please? We're both generally shattered and we're both lazy at initiating

Book your next hotel trip and make sure to casually refer to it in conversations.

We go to a kink club regularly and in amongst the kink play I have sex with my DH there. I find at home my mind is distracted by the kids (if they're home), the neighbours, the pile of washing, or work (as we both work from home). Being in a different place definitely helps.

If my husband and I have not had sex for a few days we will say that we will have an early night that night. We have sex regularly during the week but some weeks we are really tired and before we know it it's been 4 days without. So after we've had dinner and the kids are in bed, we'll go up to bed ourselves and relax up there, cuddle and give each other a massage.
That will always lead to sex for us. I think planned sex is sometimes better because you have it to look forward to and can spend more time doing foreplay. And it's good to prioritise it over sitting downstairs and watching telly or just pottering around.