Morning sex / wake up call

[mnmnddddd]

It's 5am.
The alarm clock won't go off for an hour.
You / your partner is horny and restless.
Your partner / you are asleep.
How do you / your partner wake the other for sex?

I know everyone is different, communication is everything, but I don't have anyone specific to ask at the moment, and I frequently wake early, so I'm just wondering what other people feel is effective / acceptible.

Because a lot of work connections are in the southern hemisphere I’m up and about and busy early.

But, aside from that, l would say it us unacceptable to wake someone for sex unless they have given consent to do this the night before.

Consent - obviously.🙄🤣
I guess I'm wondering what tends to be consented to / agreed on, whether that's the the night before or in general. Sort of "You can wake me up for sex if/how/when..."

Not sure what you mean @mnmnddddd ? Shaking someone who is deeply asleep would obviously not be a good idea. Whatever the reason short of a crisis.
On the other hand if you awake and bedmate is stirring cuddling up nicely will usually (in my experience) be appreciated. Even if not a wholly positive reaction I can't imagine anyone M or F taking serious offence.

I don’t think consent is something to roll your eyes and laugh at.

I don’t know anyone who would appreciate being woke up. Our attitude is that theres lots of waking hours, so when we’re sleeping, let us sleep. I think it’s selfish to wake someone just because you’re awake.

@Marthawhochanged I've heard of men enjoying being woken up with blowjobs and I'd guess that's not surprising.
I use to have a female friend who said she enjoyed being woken up by her boyfriend masturbating her, and another who didn't object, whilst there was a post the other day in which outrage was expressed at something similar.

Depending on whether it was a work day, how well I'd slept recently, etc, I don't think I'd mind getting woken up for sex, within reason. Whether that would be with an obviously horny partner snuggling up, or wandering hands, or something more intimate, I'm not sure at the moment. That said, I was sleeping in my own bed for the last 6yrs of my marriage and, in my 50s, maybe I just want to feel desirable and wanted again.

So I'm curious to know what sex-positive couples agree is ok.

@NightOneOfThree I'm not rolling my eyes at consent itself. All sex needs consent. Always. No question. I'm just laughing because to me, that's so obvious it doesn't need to be part of this question.

@throwawaymuse What's blanket consent?

@mnmnddddd After few years of celibacy my memory may be biased😃
After two short term flings, I am sleeping alone and cold nights are approaching.😞

whilst there was a post the other day in which outrage was expressed at something similar.

Which post? I saw one about a woman saying she wasn’t ok with a similar thing. No wonder really if people were outraged for her.

In terms of your OP, it’s pointless knowing what others do anyway. When you’re sleeping you’re vulnerable, it’s very important that anything is agreed with the individual you are with, and what some random on the Internet is ok with means nothing to anyone else.

In terms of your OP, it’s pointless knowing what others do anyway. When you’re sleeping you’re vulnerable, it’s very important that anything is agreed with the individual you are with, and what some random on the Internet is ok with means nothing to anyone else.

Agree.

My boyfriend always says feel free to wake him with a blowjob or handy but in the past when I’ve tried a bit of touching down there if he doesn’t wake up after a few minutes I stop as I feel like a creep. As much as he says he loves it if he’s soundo and not responding I have to stop. I’m pregnant and sleeping badly/waking up early so it’s usually me doing the morning initiations these days, but I’d love for the roles to be flipped sometimes and me be on the receiving end. I might hate it but I like the idea. He’s probably feel the same as me tho if I didn’t
wake up 🙈

On the upside, some "randoms on rhe internet" have something pertinent that actually addresses the question, so not all is lost. ❤️

I've just realised i probably misunderstood "blanket consent". In the context I was thinking something like "duvet consent" as opposed to "covers everything consent". 🤣

I'd be really pissed off if my partner woke me up at 5am for sex.

And I'm usually pretty enthusiastic.

I woke up early one and my BF was still asleep but he was lying with a hard on with no covers on top and it really turned me on. So I had a little play, gave him a BJ and climbed on top. He woke up and said what a lovely surprise to be woken like this.
We have given each other consent. I don’t mind if I get woken up by a mouth or a finger. I’ve made this clear with him. Even if I’m grumpy and sleepy I won’t stay that way for long. For me it’s all about the trust we have with each other.

Seems a bit of an odd thing to want to know about others. 🤔

Talk to your partner... if you get one that is.

DP assures me that he would love to be woken up with a blowjob. I, on the other hand, have told him in no uncertain terms that he should only wake me up if he feels like dying that day (or something similarly dire).

All of which basically means that no-one gets woken up for sex. Cup of tea, maybe, but not sex.

@Swoonworthy Yeah, I know exactly what you mean, and that probably applies for at least 74% of posts on the sex board - it's weird to ask other people about their experiences and opinions, but as I said in my post, "I don't have anyone specific to ask at the moment".

@Shodan Ah yes, the Boy George philosophy - he said he'd rather have a cup of tea than sex. I guess that just goes to show how much some people don't want to get woken up by a man wanting sex. 🤣

@throwawaymuse this is my first relationship that I’ve felt sexually free and open. It’s all about respect and passion for each other. He sometimes almost rips my clothes off at the front door if we haven’t seen each other for a while. He doesn’t come to the door and ask can I touch you, can I take your clothes off? It’s an understanding that doesn’t need express consent every time.