Honest opinions please

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Is small/skinny/ petite, attractive? As I feel that I've never had any interest or people shown that they are attracted to me in my single days inc my DH. Me and DH were friends before we got together and I've never felt desired or sexually attractive with him. Am just so down and fed up of feeling like this and feel as if I m doomed to spend rest of my life never knowing what it's like to be desired by someone.

Dress size has nothing to do with attractiveness. Most people are attracted to personality far more than aesthetics.

I've been desired when I was a size 14 as much as when I was a size 8. Any guy whose primary concern was the size or shape of my body wouldn't be someone I'd want to sleep with anyway.

It's really sad that your DH doesn't make you feel attractive. Have you told him how you feel?

Absolutely!
any size can be attractive it makes no difference
for me a smile, positive attitude and nice personality goes along way, all the way really
sad that your husband does not make you feel attractive and sexy that can be soul destroying

Isn't there a difference between being desired and being desirable?

One relies on others whilst one relies on oneself.

@Mysticguru I wouldn't know because am neither 🤣. I supposed I've learned over the years that it isn't important in the grand scheme of things and it didn't bother me. but recently when with friends watching their partners etc who compliment them etc etc.... Has made me realise I've never ever had that in my life and likely to never experience it. Trying to work out what is 'wrong' with me.

And perhaps more than maybe there is nothing wrong with you!!

Desirability doesn't need approval from anyone!

Thanks @Mysticguru 😁

Not everyone is going to find you attractive, either physically or intellectually. But you don't find everyone else attractive either. Odds are nothing is wrong with you.

Are you still with your DH? Do you want to be? Do you want to be disered by him or by someone else? Is it that you're not desired or don't know that you're desired?

I find petite women attractive. I find tall women attractive. I find all different kinds of women attractive and as others have said, it's not being a particular size/shape that makes someone attractive.

For me, humour, good manners, being well-presented, and a lack of vanity are all factors when it comes down to whether I find someone attractive.

@mnmnddddd i appreciate everyone's taste are different, but I would have thought/hoped that at least X1 person in my whole life would have found me attractive. Still with DH, not sure if I still like him or not......dont really know where head is at tbh

Sounds like your husband doesn't find you attractive and never has. You know that and it's up to you what you do with that information.

No one has found you attractive ever? That must be shit.

Plenty of people will find you attractive, in the same way that plenty of people won’t

someone who likes you and wants to be with you will find you attractive , no matter your body shape

As they say, beauty is in the eye of the beholder, of course some people will find someone small, skinny and petite attractive and some won’t.