Anal question advice please

James123abc · 2023-10-05T05:45:31+00:00

my wife recently started to finger my bum whilst massaging me (I would be doing the same for her - vagina only, as she does not enjoy Anal) we both enjoy a well lubricated massage as foreplay or the full thing I have been surprised just how much I have enjoyed her doing this and would like to explore further I have had a quick Google and there seems to be a ton of toys, where to start? butt plugs some that vibrate? Specific prostate massagers ? i don’t think I fancy the idea of a strap on that might be a bit much just looking to explore a bit any thoughts or experiences welcome

PinotPony · 05/10/2023 09:07

Love Honey do some good beginner anal kits like this one ...

www.lovehoney.co.uk/sex-toys/butt-plugs/butt-plug-sets/p/lovehoney-get-started-beginners-anal-kit-4-piece/a35236g64001.html

A good place to start while you figure out what particular sensation you like.

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James123abc · 05/10/2023 09:52

Will have a look thank you

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lilkitten · 11/10/2023 19:55

Start small, and work up. It took my DH years but he now has bigger toys than me. I find most men enjoy prostate massage when they have tried it, I've encouraged a few and they've gone on to do a lot more.

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James123abc · 23/10/2023 11:43

Thank you for your reply, We placed an order with love honey for for an anal set they do a silicone one, some lube etc we also ordered a rabbit my DW had one years ago and it just has not been used and gone a bit off after chatting she was up for playing with one again
we are going to have a play possibly today ! I am really excited by the idea to be honest not really sure how it will all go as I have zero experience in this area so am unsure how it will go or what we will do ! we have good communication so I guess we will talk a lot and try things out to find out what’s good
my DW has used a rabbit before so knows how this is I really fancy learning how to use as she loves it on her
do you use a toy to prostate massage ? Any recommendations?Does your DH have a plug or toy in when PIV or is that separate? I am guessing I would like that not sure if separating the two things or doing at the same time would be best
I think we will have fun finding out
it is strange for a guy approaching 60 to feel a bit out of depth sexually as we have had a really active sex life just never anal together (been together 14 year) sorry if I am rambling
James

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DixonD · 23/10/2023 15:38

I’ve no experience in this area, but just wanted to say it’s great that after being together for so long that you are finding new things to try and still enjoy each other so much. You’re very lucky to have a partner who’s willing to try something different.

Good luck and have fun.

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James123abc · 23/10/2023 15:59

Thank you
I know how lucky I am
as it is away from our normal sexual experience it was surprising hard to open the conversation for me, however it is much easier now and I am sure will be fine when we get the toys out
Anal was something we had never discussed before so all very new

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lilkitten · 24/10/2023 09:52

James123abc · 23/10/2023 11:43

Thank you for your reply, We placed an order with love honey for for an anal set they do a silicone one, some lube etc we also ordered a rabbit my DW had one years ago and it just has not been used and gone a bit off after chatting she was up for playing with one again
we are going to have a play possibly today ! I am really excited by the idea to be honest not really sure how it will all go as I have zero experience in this area so am unsure how it will go or what we will do ! we have good communication so I guess we will talk a lot and try things out to find out what’s good
my DW has used a rabbit before so knows how this is I really fancy learning how to use as she loves it on her
do you use a toy to prostate massage ? Any recommendations?Does your DH have a plug or toy in when PIV or is that separate? I am guessing I would like that not sure if separating the two things or doing at the same time would be best
I think we will have fun finding out
it is strange for a guy approaching 60 to feel a bit out of depth sexually as we have had a really active sex life just never anal together (been together 14 year) sorry if I am rambling
James

My male friends use a lot of silicone dildos, personally I love to massage mens' prostates using my fingers (pretty much like on women, doing the "come hither" movement). My DH likes vibrating dildos.