Sent him something special

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Last night, after several days of of flirting and build up over text, I sent this guy an audio clip of myself having an orgasm. I know him in person and we've really hit it off. I've never done anything like it before and it made me feel empowered. He loved it. It felt very intimate, more so than a photo. I'm looking forward to seeing him in person as its now our little secret. It's not really appropriate for us to have a relationship (yet) as we work together but it feels naughty and fun. Has anyone else made a recording of themselves and sent it to someone? Apparently this is a whole thing that people get off on. I prefer it.

I used to sext with my OH at the time...years ago though 😁..no pics or anything..just texts. Tell you what put me off? Sent one to my bro by accident meant for OH...it was very rude ...i mean rude too...i still blush .and he doesn't let me live it down 😳🤦😂. Brothers never grow up...the bas*ards 😂

MNHQ obviously consider this poster to be OK, as it's been left to stand. But at least they've moved it to the sex topic. Although I don't think the OP is coming back ...

Although I don't think the OP is coming back ...

If they do, I'm sure they'll send a recording 🤣🤣

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Will you feel equally ‘empowered’ when all of Accounts has your orgasm as their mobile ringtone

😱😱😱😂😂😂

Genius, sounds like a scene from ‘The Office’.

Hilarious!

I hope the op is updating her linkedin profile

No, no, no - there's enough implausible claims on Linkedin without adding this voicenote.

Guy I’m getting to know sent me an audio of his orgasm and it was hot!
Would I do the same.. absolutely not!

There’s nothing wrong with a bit of flirtation over messages and a sending the odd image/recording as long as you play it safe.

I've sent pics/videos to men. They love it and I do too. It is empowering and it's exciting too.

Lovely. Until you piss them off and find yourself on the internet. Of course, that may not bother you, each to their own. Friends, employer and family may be a bit …… perturbed, though.

Why is it empowering? You might find it titillating, but how on earth is it empowering?

Its not. How has society got women to believe that men wanting to shag them is 'empowering' them as women? The only people who seem to benefit from this narrative are heterosexual men and the sex industry. You are not empowered by men wanting to shag you. You are empowered by earning your own money, owning your own house, keeping yourself well skilled, knowledgeable and smart. You are empowered by having strong social and support networks. You are empowered by knowing how to spot the signs of a man who will never quite see as an equal to him. All these things and more empower you. Men wanting to shag you will never empower you. Its just a man wanting to shag you. There's no power in it.

Empowering for him yes

100% this

Sounds ridiculously performative.
All I can think is When Harry met Sally.

You don't send it because it's empowering, you send it because they love it (as you've said in your post). You are doing it for them and to get validation from them for it.

Loubelle70 · Today 15:35
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I've sent pics/videos to men. They love it and I do too. It is empowering and it's exciting too.
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Empowering for him yes”

Probably a quick thrill for the mates he shares it with, too.

Honesty, 12 year olds are now warned against this in schools. Presumably, OP is an adult? Why, just why, would someone with any self-respect lay themselves bare for anyone to see?

@itsmyp4rty validation. what's wrong with that?

Why does everyone assume men would share stuff?

❤️

Is it getting a guy to wank off that’s empowering?

How? Being the woman that caused him to do it?

Any woman can do that. Literally - any.

It doesn’t even have to be a woman. He can just pick up his phone.

How is it empowering?

In a culture which slut shames women for having pleasure, as we can see on this thread actually, the idea is that your sexual arousal and pleasure is a private negotiating point. Access to your sexuality may only be bestowed on a lucky man when he has proved himself by being, whatever, rich or prepared to marry you, etc.

Imagine if evidence of our sexual arousal was not shaming to us.

I send the guy an audio clip of me coming. He puts it on the Internet. What a twat he is, it wasn't meant for that. But why should that shame me? Literally even if all my colleagues happened to see it, all they see if a person doing sex. Sure, it's a bit distasteful. If someone walked in on me in the loo, or putting out the bins in my nightie looking rough, filmed it and used that to shame me, it's them who is the idiot.

So it's "empowering" not because it makes the man have a wank. It's empowering to refuse to accept the narrative that my sexual arousal being known is something that shames me.

Access to your sexuality may only be bestowed on a lucky man when he has proved himself by being, whatever, rich or prepared to marry you, etc.

What…….?

I don't know why people assume men would share stuff like this. In my experience men keep their sex lives pretty private. If a man shared anything sexual with his mates for a laugh, he'd be an absolute scumbag. Genuinely don't think most men are like that. Most adult men are into having good sexual relationships more than impressing their mates by disrespecting the woman they're seeing.

As for it being empowering... I'm not sure that's the word I'd use but it's fun and sexy if you're both into it.

@GodDammitCecil read the whole post. I'm saying that this is the prevailing narrative for people who say "sexting isn't empowering", and that I disagree with it.