Facesitting

[FellatrixLestrange]

My DP is keen for me to incorporate this position and it feels good for me too. Does anyone have tips to really make this hot for him?

It probably depends on how he might like it. Personally, I prefer to be sat on with a bit of "force", grinding on etc and incorporating some breathe play, but I appreciate that this is probably more for my pleasure than any female partner's.

If its for the female partner's pleasure, then obviously it needs a more lighter touch, or not even touching at all so that I can give her oral. I think you just need to experiment and see what you both prefer.

For breath play type fun, I find the woman facing towards my feet easier, for performing oral, its easier with the woman facing away from my feet.

Sorry that's a bit of an obvious reply but hopefully you will both find some common ground! Good luck.

He seems keen to use force, he pulls me onto his face by my hips. Ok, so lots of grinding. Breath play? I’ll need to check in with him about that.

Try to "make love" to his face by moving your hips in little circles or other creative movements. Definitely don't just be static and let his tongue do all the moving.

for me some nice panties left on feel of lace is a double turn on

I'm the complete opposite. Cant stand the feel of lacey/silk type underwear.

Yes lots of grinding by the sounds of it. And definitely check in with him about the breath play, altho sounds like it might be his thing.

Haha horses for courses, unless I'm some kind of freak the sight of some nice undies at same time is a big plus

I hate to sound a note of caution and be a party pooper, but some friends of mine had an accident doing his which could have been quite serious. My friend is a, shall we say, 'body positive' lady, and was sufficiently well upholstered down there to make an airtight seal around her boyfriend's head. Unfortunately he lost consciousness. She was in a bit of a panic, as they were at her parents' house and she didn't want them to know what she'd been doing. Once she'd got off him, however, he resumed breathing and regained consciousness, but it gave her a few very anxious moments.

Fortunately he was OK about it, and didn't hold it against her. They're still together too! However it does remind me that it's possible to hurt one's partner when you're close to the point of no return - play safely people.

Yes, it’s worth finding out the location of the nearest defibrillator and oxygen supply before any heavyweights get comfortable. Remember that oxygen starvation for even a short time can cause irreversible brain damage.

And I am indeed a heavyweight. So instead of advising me to communicate together to modify my position for his enjoyment you’d rather mock the situation. 🙄 I realise the dangers of breath play. I said earlier that I would have to talk that through with him.

That wouldn't be a bad way to go I must admit lol 😂

Your mourners could say ‘ah lanzii died doing what they loved’😂

🤣🤣

Sorry, I haven't looked in here for a little while. No, @FellatrixLestrange I wasn't meaning to take the mickey out of you. The incident was related to me by my friends as a funny story, so they were clearly at peace with it. So I thought I'd share it. Anyway, I hope it's all going well for you. Great name by the way. In my friskier moments I like to think of myself as a fellatrice. Much better than the sadly ubiquitous 'blow job'.